I never once thought parenthood would be easy, but damn, I wasn't expecting it to be this hard.…
I never once thought parenthood would be easy, but damn, I wasn't expecting it to be this hard. Yesterday my daughter was cluster feeding and fighting her sleep, but she eventually went to sleep are 1pm and slept a few hours. Today she was cluster feeding, and fighting her sleep again. But today she ate so much that one of my boobs is completely tapped out. Then she kept crying. She was fed, she was changed, she was given attention but she still kept crying and crying and crying to the point that I started crying too. I thought she was still cluster feeding so I would try and feed her and on my boob that still had milk but she just kept spitting it out and kept on crying. Her dad tried to get her to stop, and she would for a few minutes, but then started right back up again. We both feel so defeated by our one week old daughter. It's a horrible feeling not being able to sooth your child. I finally said screw it. So we got ready, and packed up the baby and drove into town. We didn't even make it to the car before she passed out in her car seat. We are now sitting in a Chinese restaurant eating for the first time since breakfast and letting her sleep. My fiancé got a nap in while she was cluster feeding earlier, since there really isn't much for him to do to help with that. But I have been up since 7am. I have not gotten more than 3 hours of sleep at a time in the past 10 days, not to mention the lack of sleep from being pregnant before I even had her. I am exhausted to the point where I feel like giving up, going to Walmart, and buying some formula so her grandparents can watch her for a few hours. I want to breastfeed exclusively so badly, but I'm tired, I'm emotional, I'm still recovering from a 50 hour labor and a c-section, I'm dying to have just 10 minutes to cuddle and love on my fiancé, I miss my dogs, my nipples feel like they are about to fall off, I still have a clogged duct which hurts like hell, my whole body hurts from not being able to relax, and I am just overwhelmed to the point that I feel like locking myself in the bathroom and crying for an hour. I love my daughter and I love being her mom, but I need a break, I need a shower, I need a nap, and I need a bottle of wine.
Lori 🍕·
That's horrible . I hope it starts getting easier - my son is a week old too and it's really tiring but I'm also supplementing with formula otherwise I would be SO TIRED. try to consider it , it would help you a lot and give you some rest if you want someone to watch her for you. Sounds like your having a tough time , I hope all goes well . Good luck mama
Sarah Cervantes·
Мама дочки-младенца
@mrsmord I'm about to cave and go buy a can of formula now. I had some that was sent to me, but I can not find it anywhere. I need a break because I am no good to anyone, especially my daughter like this.
Lori 🍕·
@sarahrachel0715, yeah , you need to be in a good state of mind and SANE . Because beggings can be really hard get all the help u can. I try nursing more then I give formula I only use formula when I really really need it . Goodkuck
Lori 🍕·
Good luck **
Sarah Cervantes·
Мама дочки-младенца
@mrsmord Thank you. I need all the luck I can get.
Lori 🍕·
@sarahrachel0715, you can do this mama
Elizabeth Dake·
Мама троих детей
I'm sorry mama, my daughter is 11 days old and I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old.. I know it seems like it will never end, but I promise its so worth it. I'm also exclusively breastfeeding (again) and when I feel like giving up I sit in the living room once all kids are asleep and drink me 1 glass of wine.. its perfectly safe, I've gotten the OK from her doctor. (just don't get knockout drunk) you can do this, it don't last forever 😊
Sarah Cervantes·
Мама дочки-младенца
@elizabethdake21 I'm about to send my fiancé into Walmart to buy me a bottle now. lol. And thank you. She is worth it all, but it's hard.
Mychelle·
Мама двоих (младенец)
i have had the same thing happen. what i think it is is that i ate something that doesnt agree with her stomach. because my little girl was acting like she was trying to poo.
kayla·
first off, breathe momma. you got this. my daughters 7 months old now and I had a c section also. that first week home was like hell and heaven all wrapped in one. if you have to set her down in her swing or something for a minute and walk away. if you come back happier she'll be happier too. also music worked wonders with my daughter, if I could find the right song it would calm her down so much
Sarah Cervantes·
Мама дочки-младенца
@kaychelle95 I tried the swing, I tried music, I tried womb sounds. Thank God the car ride worked
Sarah Cervantes·
Мама дочки-младенца
@mychellemabelle She's been pooping and passing gas like normal, so I don't think it's that.
kayla·
has she been spitting up?
Sarah Cervantes·
Мама дочки-младенца
@kaychelle95 Nope.
kayla·
my baby had acid reflux, she didn't spit up all the time just every once in awhile but the acid was burning her throat like it does with adults so that may be it too maybe call your dr.
Sarah Cervantes·
Мама дочки-младенца
@kaychelle95 She hasn't spit up since we left the hospital, and they said the only reason she was then is because I didn't have vaginal birth so all of the amniotic fluid didn't get out of her mouth and nose since she didn't go through 'the big squeeze'. She had an appointment this morning and they just said she was cluster feeding.
jessy7715cooper·
my son did that too when he was first home. and I did not know that you have to burp a breast Fed baby so make sure you do that even if it takes 20 minutes just try. and I ended up having to get him gas medicine just the over counter at Wal-Mart and it worked great!
also they make supplementing formula. I was going to do it but I waited to long and my son refuses to drink 1 drop of formula. so if you want to supplement I advise you to start now! good luck and just remeber it can only get better! your babe gets bigger and you both get better at everything. she is learning how to feed and live out in this crazy world just like your learning to be a momma!
Sarah Cervantes·
Мама дочки-младенца
@jessy7715cooper I burp her after she eats, most of the time she burps on her own anyways. I've got formula that I'm going to give her as soon as she wakes up. She's finally knocked out thank God