**Disclaimer: long post
**Topic: crying it out
First time momma. My 3 month old son has become very needy, I suppose you could say. My fiancé was away for two months for work and my son and I were each other's rocks and comfort... I tried not to let him get too attached to me, but he is so young, and was all I had for awhile. Babies crave affection, that I get. But now that my fiancé is home, he always wants to be held. Dadda is for fun and laughter, momma is for fussy and naps and feeding. It's so funny how he craves each of us for something different.
Our son already sleeps through the night, since 8 weeks... Most nights anyways. It's not the sleeping through the night we have trouble with, it's the getting him to sleep part.
Sometimes he's so exhausted, he falls asleep, but most nights, he wants to be held, rocked, cuddled, then he'll fall asleep, deep sleep and the second we put him down, he's screaming. It's been very very hard. My fiancé and I have been letting him "cry it out" a bit. We've heard how many weeks they are is how many minutes they can cry, so for us- 13 minutes. I hate it. It kills both of us, and eventually we try to sooth him or pick him up. We've tried the bouncer, swing, vibrating pack and play, anything to get him a bit more independent with falling asleep. I think it's definitely a comfort thing, although they say not to- we put a very very thin pillow under his head/back and it seems to help. He wants to be on his belly or side but I'm not comfortable with that yet, while we're sleeping too. He has NO issues sleeping for naps. Wahhh, help!
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when you are rocking him to sleep how do you hold him? I have found that by holding my daughter and rocking her to sleep in the same position that she will be in when i lay her down helps eliminate the shock factor and keeps her asleep. you may try that with him..
Hmmm I've never thought of that, I'll try that tonight :) @elizabethdake21
Yes, he could be completely passed out, move his hands to make sure, doesn't flinch and the second he doesn't feel us holding him anymore he wakes up. We could stand up, move him, walk around, as long as he's in our arms he's fine @s_ochoa1215
take one of your shirts that you've worn and lay it under his crib sheet.. he'll smell you and that might help 😊
So, just to make sure im understanding this right.. It is hard to get him to sleep and he also wakes up as you lay him down?
Science!
My friend posted this on facebook last night and said her kids were asleep within minutes. It's a song that scientists created to help people fall asleep. I was skeptical but I thought what the hay, I'll try it out. I didn't bank on Dh falling asleep, but both him and lo were asleep by minute 2. And lo slept six straight hours. ?
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
SLEEP TRAINING
So.. we hired a sleep consultant to try to help our baby soothe himself to sleep and we got a sleep training plan for him. It's basically putting him down in his crib, sound machine on, and letting him cry for 3 minutes before going into the room to comfort him. The plan is to repeat this until he falls asleep by himself (which I believe will take us the whole night, if we are lucky)
I tried something similar when he was about 2 months old. I started at 7 pm and gave in at 2 am ...
Ok, so my friend is wanting to get pregnant but..... Her fiancé does not want kids, at lease for another 3-5 years he said... so she came up with the idea to have me pee on a stick for her and show it to him so that he’ll be comfortable with not wearing a condom and finishing in her.. basically the whole idea is to make him think she’s pregnant already...... so I do this favor for her or should I tell my girl to chill?
He and my husband are friends through us and he’s going to invite him over...
Weaning
We are finally on the path to being weaned! He was down to only nursing for nap time and at night but yesterday he did so well not nursing at nap time that we went ahead and dropped the night nursing as well! If definitely took forever to get him to fall asleep but thankfully I'm a sahm and Athena isn't due until April. Hopefully we find better ways to fall asleep quickly before then. I think the whole process would be easier if my husband would put him to sleep but sadly he works long...
My fiancé does that actually! And it seems to work sometimes. He rocks him on the pillow so when he puts him down, he doesn't really feel the difference. Thank you, I'll try rocking him the way I lay him down instead of against me! @s_ochoa1215