**Disclaimer: long post

**Topic: crying it out

First time momma. My 3 month old son has become very needy, I suppose you could say. My fiancé was away for two months for work and my son and I were each other's rocks and comfort... I tried not to let him get too attached to me, but he is so young, and was all I had for awhile. Babies crave affection, that I get. But now that my fiancé is home, he always wants to be held. Dadda is for fun and laughter, momma is for fussy and naps and feeding. It's so funny how he craves each of us for something different.

Our son already sleeps through the night, since 8 weeks... Most nights anyways. It's not the sleeping through the night we have trouble with, it's the getting him to sleep part.

Sometimes he's so exhausted, he falls asleep, but most nights, he wants to be held, rocked, cuddled, then he'll fall asleep, deep sleep and the second we put him down, he's screaming. It's been very very hard. My fiancé and I have been letting him "cry it out" a bit. We've heard how many weeks they are is how many minutes they can cry, so for us- 13 minutes. I hate it. It kills both of us, and eventually we try to sooth him or pick him up. We've tried the bouncer, swing, vibrating pack and play, anything to get him a bit more independent with falling asleep. I think it's definitely a comfort thing, although they say not to- we put a very very thin pillow under his head/back and it seems to help. He wants to be on his belly or side but I'm not comfortable with that yet, while we're sleeping too. He has NO issues sleeping for naps. Wahhh, help!