Anyone had any baby daddy problems? I fell pregnant within the first few times and straight away he…

Hi)frankly speaking I dont understand him at all.are you sure that he deserves you and your child?you should think about your baby and nothing more) now it is the most important thing) stress influences your baby)dont worry.

Yeah, I'm not letting him stress me out anymore because my little boy is all I need but it's just so confusing! He hasn't contributed atall, it's just I feel his parents should know they are going to be grand parents @raindrop thank you!

@beccastirlingx if he seriously doesnt want his parents know then just dont tell them anythig because he can become agressiv when learn that they already know and hurt you!dont tell anythig. live your life.time will show the best way out)

Thank you! @raindrop

@beccastirlingx not at all sweety)

I was told at 21 I couldn't conceive and after 18 months of feeling shit about it, I finally accepted it. Fast forward 3 years, I started seeing someone casually in the beginning of this year. 4 months on and I find out shockingly I'm pregnant. I told him and first thing he said was to get rid. I told him that as much as I appreciate he should have a say in this, at the end of the day it's my body and I chose not to have an abortion. He accused me of lying about my infertility. He said I was ruining his life. I told him that if that's how he feels then he's welcome to not be part of it. He then blocked my number etc from when I was 6 weeks till I was about 18 weeks. He then suddenly made contact. He said was I going to stop him seeing the baby in the future? I said No but I did say that it wasn't going to let him be in and out like a revolving door. Children need stability and if he cannot provide that then he can't be around. He said He understood. So I said well I'm due in January. And that was that. He's since blocked my number again, as far as I can tell and that was 17 weeks ago. I don't think he'll suddenly get back in contact. He knows where I am, if he wanted to be there for me and the baby he would've been. So I've spent my entire pregnancy planning and prepping with the mindset that I am "on my own". Everything in her room I have bought. Nappies and wipes I've stocked up on out of my own money. Which I've earned. Because until 3 weeks ago I worked 45 hours a week and now I'm enjoying my well earned maternity leave. From what I believe, my daughters father has not told anyone about me and the baby. Because I don't drive I never visited his house, met his parents etc. He always came to mine so he's met my mom. And tbh I don't even know what his parents names are so I wouldn't even know where to start if I wanted to try get them involved. At the end of the day, it was his place to tell them. He is the one denying them the chance at getting to know their granddaughter. As sad as it is, for her, that she won't have her father and his family in her life, it will never be my fault that has happened. I've tried to include him in everything during the pregnancy. Whenever I've had a scan, a hospital appointment or whatnot I've text him. If he's blocked my number that's his problem, not mine. He can never sit there and say that I didn't try, that I stopped him from seeing her. I never have and I never will.

That actually seduced me to tears because that's basically exactly what my situation is like!!!! I keep trying and trying and trying, he doesn't understand how hard it has been, I work between 40 and 50 hours plus sleepovers just to earn to be able to provide. I don't mind doing it, it's just not having that emotional support than the rest of the mummies do! Also breaks my heart to know he's missing out. @nashkay thank you so much for sharing your story! I'm sure you'll do fab on your own!!

@beccastirlingx, Aw bless you. I don't see my situation as a bad one. I mean, obviously it's not ideal raising a baby alone as preferably a child needs two parents. But in a selfish way, I'm fine he's not around. I get to be her whole world, be her role model. I get to make all the decisions regarding her life, her health, her everything. I'll be her first friend, her emotional support, her mommy. I can't wait. I'm lucky I have a great support system and because I still live at home (too expensive to move out), my mom will be around her too, will be another person for my daughter to bond with, lean on, like I do with her myself. We are very close and I just hope Scarlett and I are even just half as close as my mom and I are. You don't need anyone, it's tough financially, of course it is, but you'll make it work. Us women always find a way. And because you'll have a child to look out for you know damn well you'll try your hardest. X

Situation is the exact same as yours it's so mad!!!! I stay at home too and my whole family have been so supportive!!! All the best to you! @nashkay x

@beccastirlingx, Same to you. Enjoy your pregnancy, as much as you can. Before you know it your bubba will be here x