@hellosweetie, yea wit my son I tore completely and it was a natural birth and it was a terrible healing process, and I just had my daughter last week naturally and didn't tear and I'm still scared to go :(
I remember that....I was soooo scared to go! I had two 2nd degree tears from my natural birth, it was quick so I had no chance lol....recovery took almost the full 6 weeks!!! Ugh