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I know this is quite a lot but I really need advice....okay so this is what I'm struggling with my husband and I are…

I know this is quite a lot but I really need advice....okay so this is what I'm struggling with my husband and I are expecting our first child, it's a boy but before me my husband went through a situation with his ex where she was pregnant and said the baby was his so he sign the birth certificate and the little boy has his last name. I know it was before me but now that I am pregnant with his biological child I want him to get his name remove from the birth certificate and for her to change his last name and cut off contact with them because every few weeks she is always messaging him about changing it and always checking up on him but all he does is ignore her because he like she oonly saying that to have conversation with him . In the past I use to get upset with him about the name thing and the messaging between them so a couple months ago I tried an different approach I decide to tell him not to worry about it as long as their was no contact there and to try to see if he would do it anyways because he knows how much it bothers me ??? I do not know what to do ????

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caitlineisner

Caitlin Bossert

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If he doesn't get his name taken off the birth certificate she can come back later and get him for child support since he did sign as the father of that child. my boyfriend went through the same thing but took it to court and got it all cleared before we even started talking again. trust me he is gonna want to do it you don't want to deal with that later on if she does decide to do that.

addilynsmom27

Jennifer Foley

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To me , in my opinion it sounds like he's not really worried about it.

mommytoblu

Diamond Underwood

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That's the approach I am trying to take but I just don't want him to keep saying he will he will and then with me being so calm about it he decides to take his time @addilynsmom27

addilynsmom27

Jennifer Foley

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I feel like he should say so if he will or not. I know how you feel. completely understand. but it's not for you to worry. you have a beautiful baby to be concerned about. just talk to him. see what he says.

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

I know this is quite a lot but I really need advice....okay so this is what I'm struggling with my husband and I are…

I know this is quite a lot but I really need advice....okay so this is what I'm struggling with my husband and I are expecting our first child, it's a boy but before me my husband went through a situation with his ex where she was pregnant and said the baby was his so he sign the birth certificate and the little boy has his last name. I know it was before me but now that I am pregnant with his biological child I want him to get his name remove from the birth certificate and for her to change his last name and cut off contact with them because every few weeks she is always messaging him about changing it and always checking up on him but all he does is ignore her because he like she oonly saying that to have conversation with him . In the past I use to get upset with him about the name thing and the messaging between them so a couple months ago I tried an different approach I decide to tell him not to worry about it as long as their was no contact there and to try to see if he would do it anyways because he knows how much it bothers me ??? I do not know what to do ????

@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your…

@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer. My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk outside without this information. Children of color are being targeted and killed too. It’s not just adults. I let my son know we treat everyone equally and with respect. I let him know that we love everyone for their differences. In every aspect. Color, race, ethnicity, religion, sexual preference we love everyone.