Today I was approached by one of my little cousins (he's about 4 or 5) and he asked me who my dad was and where he was... I didn't know how to tell him that my dad has never been in my life and we don't talk about him in my family for personal reasons. My father comes around the family every once in a blue moon (like every 7-10 years) and I know this little boy will eventually meet him and I didn't want him to know that that man is my father (again personal reasons). He's also grown up with his father in the household so I feel like he wouldn't understand why my father isn't around when his is. I'm a new mommy to a 3 month old little girl so I'm not experienced in explaining things to children. I had to awkwardly walk away from him without giving him an explanation, but I felt bad because he's just a child. He doesn't understand, and I felt like he shouldn't have been ignored. It was just a touchy subject he asked about. Mom's how would you explain something like that to a child or how would you explain something serious to a little kid?
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I would say something along the lines of; every family is different. Some people have a mom and dad, some just have a dad and some have a mom. People just have grandparents sometimes. It's just how it is. I work with kids that age, I know how hard it can be.
It's not that easy cuz everything I tell him comes with a "why?" Reply. He asks a lot of questions.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer.
My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk out...
Ugh my S.o brags soooo much about how our son looks like him...like he tries to take the credit for everything like I had nothing to do with him...its annoying...like yes I know he predominately looks like him but there is a blend of me In there as well... and then he says I just carried him but he did all the work...because he technically came from him (sperm cell)... ugh whatever...
I don't have a baby boy. I would like to know personally how do you moms feel about people treating there sons like girls as in taking them to nail salons and getting pampered ect.... I think it's important for ladies to remember your not raising a little boy. At the end of the day your raising a man. If I have a son I just want to raise him to be the best man he can be. I won't treat him to the same things I would my daughter and vice versa.😕
i finally let him do it
I finally let DF throw away my foundations. He says I look better without it. He said he hates seeing me cover my face with make up when I can just wear mascara and eyeliner. He says it makes me look fake and he said he's not saying it to be mean, hes saying it because he cares. Im glad he's real with me. He says I have natural beauty. He says he doesn't like it when I dye my hair or wear make up because he loves my natural beauty. I know some girls feel as though that t...
I just ended up telling him that my grandfather was my dad to me (he's been my father figure) and he bought it lol