I need advice from women who have a boyfriend or husband in the military! : Right Now my boyfriend…
I need advice from women who have a boyfriend or husband in the military! :
Right Now my boyfriend is studying his Asvab to go in to the Army or Air Force. i'm proud of him for that choice bc he's finally stopped his weed smoking and made the promise last night hes done with it and will be working out more and getting clean. but he did say he'd be going into the delayed entry program. which means he can chose a date to start his basic. well. he's chosing sometime in April. and our son is due on March 28th. meanwhile I feel selfish when I say I wish he'd chose later so I have help with the baby, but I also want him to get the chance to bond with his little boy. i'm afraid that if he goes in. he's gonna miss out on some stuff. not to mention we aren't married. and weve only been together for almost 2 years... marriage is something we both envisioned 3 or 4 more years down the road. and Ive been told even if I have a child with him, I cannot follow him around when he's stationed places bc we aren't married :/ and I haven't brought it up but others have and by the sounds of it.. he isn't gonna be asking me to marry him before he goes in.
my head hurts from all this and I just don't know how to take it.
missing268user·
you may want to get married girl its hard
brittany·
Мама двоих (5 лет, 6 лет), ждёт третьего
after his basic and ati school yall should talk about getting married.
missing112user·
В ожидании первенца
@kbuggie20, as much as I don't want to right now, I know that's what has to be done. it's just all of us trying to tell him that's how it has to go. he was married once before and his wife cheated on him the 9 months they were married. so now marriage just sketches him out. he knows id never do that to him but he still has his mind set on 3-4 years getting married. this is all tok stressful and he couldn't have picked a worse time than in the 2/3 through my pregnancy to spring this on me
Paige Rue·
В ожидании первенца
I'm in the army and my boyfriend is in the army too, I've been in for 3 1/2 years and he has been in for 1 1/2....he has his training for 4 months then being deployed shortly after baby is born. I know it's hard but supporting you boyfriend and face timing or Skype is a good thing to try! Marring someone just cuz of military isn't the best idea it doesn't work out always. I'm a military brat....he could be stationed In Japan and you would have to stay here, or Korea or somewhere else. It happened to my mom and dad when I wasn't even born yet he ended up in Korea while she was by herself raising a 3 year old and a newborn. If you ever need advise or questions about the military I can happily help you because well it's my job and I grew up with it! Just message me if you have any questions (: I'm here for you!
missing268user·
it will makes yalls relationship hardwr:/ my ex and i were married and it was still hard but that's the best way potter wise not only will you not be Able to see him but he could get the baby every other weekend :/@misskaebby
missing268user·
it will makes yalls relationship hardwr:/ my ex and i were married and it was still hard but that's the best way potter wise not only will you not be Able to see him but he could get the baby every other weekend :/@misskaebby
Maya 🐝·
I mean you could follow him around you just won't get the same benefits as a wife... but I would recommend getting married when your ready I wouldn't want your relationship to be messed up by moving too fast I've seen it happen a bunch of times
missing112user·
В ожидании первенца
@sharonpaige13, thank you. i'm just like Him. we both don't want to rush into marriage for that reason. we both wanna make sure it's what we both want even though we say we have each other for the rest of our lives. I just don't want him to not be able to see his son grow up at all in the first year. this pregnancy was planned and it's been a struggle to have it come about. ya know? I sound so selfish. and I hate that I do.
Paige Rue·
В ожидании первенца
Oh honey it's understandable my boyfriend will be on a 9 month deployment he will be here for less then 3 weeks when baby is born then gone the next 9....it's hard but honestly the best decision a man can make for his family! It'll be hard but just take a bunch of picture and constantly video chat of some sort and visit as often as you want!
missing112user·
В ожидании первенца
@sharonpaige13, I think that's honestly the best thing I could do. that's why he's doing this. so we can be better off as a family. he's so tired of the crappy jobs he has already, not being able to put food in the house or do anything nice for me. and then when we got pregnant he realized that a Waffle House job isn't gonna be enough to help raise a baby. so he decided to try again to go into the military. I know in the end it's gonna be best. and I also know one day we WILL be married. that's always been our plan when we realized how we've felt about each other. we just don't think 2 years into a relationship is OUR plan. even though we thought having a baby was. we're weird I know. lol.
Paige Rue·
В ожидании первенца
Lol it's alright and normal but take things slow and stay supportive and everything will be fine