@sarahemccormick, My uncle is very similar, always making excuses for why he can't get a job, never helping around the house, trying to parent my son, drinking all the time, he even stole my husband's car twice. But the icing on the cake was today when he overdosed on my anxiety pills and was stumbling around my house like a fool. I'm not worried about being nice but my husband just hates being the bad guy so it looks like in gonna have to strap on my big girl boots and be the one to kick him out.

I dealt with a very similar situation with my older brother and his biological dad, who is not my father. My brothers wife died the night of her bday because of mixing pills and alcohol. They had two kids. My brother tried to commit suicide after his wife's death on numerous occasions. So, I felt terrible and invited him to come take a short vaca at my house to get away from it all. He left the kids with his mother in law and hit the road, driving down here, never even telling me he was on his way or anything - and I found out he was here when he was in my city. Not only was he here, but he brought his dad with him, who creeps me the f out and whom I dont like or get along with. Yet, I was to let them both stay on my couches. A vaca turned into them moving down here, mooching off of us, eating all the food, watching all the cable - mind you I have four kids who were dying for some TV time - and after they began binge drinking and refused to get jobs, and my brother began getting really rude with my husband, and refused to be a father to his own to children who were groeving the loss of their mom, we straight up kicked them out and put them out on their butt. Sometimes, there is only so much you can do for someone - and you have to exhibit the tough as nails side of yourself whether you want to or not.

yeah that's another thing that's something I gotta learn once I have my son. @lilchicken control the anger.but him as a uncle should know better and it's gonna cause problems in your household

@preggerstone, thank you, that sounds way better than what I had planned!

@tbella91, I was thinking the same thing, when it happened I removed myself and my son from the situation until my husband took him elsewhere because I don't want my son to see me lose my temper.

Says there's a way you want to parent and the things he does or says isn't what you want your child seeing. You love him but living with you isn't working for you. He may take it wrong either way but it has to be done.

idk how I'd do it nicely considering a child is involved. let him know about his behavior and one honestly I would've made it known the first time I saw or heard him do anything around my child.there's no nice way when it comes to your child's well being. he's an adult he can take it lol