there are some disadvantages to it. but also so many advantages. it took me until I was 19/20 and losing my grandmother to realize I should be proud to be black. being in Oregon there are hardly any black people where I grew up and it was hard to be proud of it. I literally would wake up several hours before school to straighten my hair every day just so I could be accepted. the one thing I have done my whole life though is put human anytime I had to fill out the race question. my dad always told me that my skin color had nothing to do with my race because I was part of the human race.

This is her 1st grandchild so I can't be too rude, even though it's gotten to the point where I've said "My life. My child. My decisions. If you can't be supportive without judging me, then I guess I don't need to involve you." Hell she even threatened to take my baby away when she's born cause I moved out (20 years old) lol. But I'm still getting whatever brands I want and got pacifiers lol @maliksmommie

exactly, that's why I'm always telling my bf that even if we don't stay together (which I'm hoping we do) my son will need his dad because I can't teach him how to be black in America. @tae23

@maliksmommie, Yea I don't talk or go over anymore

I told everyone they cant touch him unless they got the pertussis vaccine.

oh my god she said that?! oh hell no I would flip tf out. @curlykarla

and I can speak from experience being a biracial woman. it's different rasing a biracial child. my mom did nothing to help or prepare me for the bullying that I got for being biracial. you and your partner are the only two who needs to raise your son. if shed rude about how you want to raise him just say you'll take her advice to consideration but you have to talk it over with his father.

I let my mom try that bullshit but I still end up buying the brands I want lol @mrskeenan16

Yea especially because she told me she hopes my baby dies I don't want her around me or my belly except I didn't want to tell my bf that's what's his mom said cause that's heart breaking..

see I have a feeling I'm going to be that way when my son is born, I'm taking him to meet all my side of the family when he's like 2 weeks old and more than likely I'm gonna be like "look don't touch" I'm already so protective lol. @tae23

@curlykarla, they can't do that lol they can only do that If the mother is 13 - 16 and that'd only In some states

Yeah it's crazy. I want to flip out on her so bad but at the same time I don't because shes my mom. It sucks @maliksmommie

oh if my bfs parents ever said some shit like that to me I would cut that off real quick, they will have a lot of ass kissing to see their grandson. @curlykarla

Sounds like my mom! "You're gonna use this brand of diapers. This brand of bottles. No pacifiers. When the baby is born you're moving in with me. You're using this kind of carseat." Yada yada yada. Lol.

tell her when she impregnates or pushes him out of her vagina she can decide how he's raised lol. I don't let my mom or my boyfriend's mom even be alone with my son. I don't trust anyone but his dad with him.

my MIL and FIL literally told me they could take my kid away cause I'm too young to know what to do😠 all I said was you were 17 when you had my bf I'm 19 keep it up and you won't meet your grandkid

its such bullshit. like whatever I say I'm doing as parenting wise isn't good enough because she wants to raise him a different way. like stfu. @emilysmommy92 @tae23

my boyfriend's mom tried to say this Shit. I shut her down real quick. it's fucking bullshit.

Sounds just like my mother. Smh