I don't know if I am in the wrong or not but this is how I feel...so my mother in law and my husband email back and fourth and we are very open with our phones we did have problems in the beginning of our marriage that we worked through, but anyway when talking about the baby she always says our baby girl! like it is mine his and hers I feel she needs to say my granddaughter or something other than our baby girl my husband says I am being selfish. I don't feel I am. advice please!
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@kbuggie20, @mommareatherford If it makes you uncomfortable then by all means say something! It is you and your SO baby so if you want to be 'selfish' be selfish and don't worry about what people say ♡
@mommareatherford, I understand girl, my fiances boss refers to his and my baby as ours, also in the situation of first child and lucky to be pregnant I almost bit her head off because I'm selfish, the only person I'm not selfish with is my fiance because it's his baby too. put your foot down, it only gets worse:/
@mommareatherford, I understand girl, my fiances boss refers to his and my baby as ours, also in the situation of first child and lucky to be pregnant I almost bit her head off because I'm selfish, the only person I'm not selfish with is my fiance because it's his baby too. put your foot down, it only gets worse:/
the fact that she was not in my husbands life for his whole childhood and moved over an hour away plays a big role in it. I just feel she is over stepping her boundaries she is my and my husbands baby not hers....she is her granddaughter . it is not my fault she missed out on her kids childhood but she is not going to try to replace what she missed out on with my daughter. that is and always will be her own fault. i may be a little selfish but this is my first baby a baby I was told I could never have and it is just amazing that I am due in a month. Doctors always told me I only had like a 1% chance of ever getting pregnant.
My mom, my sister and his sister all say this is their baby. I don't mind. I just hope they remember that when I'm dropping the baby off with them at 2am so I can get some sleep! Lol
i expirenced this as well . they told me it was just a cultural thing but come to find out she said "our baby" and "my baby" because my daughters father is her youngest kid so its natural for his mother to take the baby and raise her and she really did try to do that filed for custody started calling my daughter another name and was planing to take my daughter back to Nigeria . not saying your situation will be anything like mine but put your foot down !
I personally don't think the grandmother meant it like its just their baby and not hers I think when she said our she was saying the three of them as a whole . I would think too much into in .
I would talk to your husband about boundaries with the mother in law and see if he could talk to her about it. You are the one carrying the baby for 9 months-you deserve the title of saying "my baby"
My little sister says the same thing and my friend calls herself my baby daddy lol Hubs and I don't mind a bit. I wouldn't personally worry about it.
grandmothers seem to always be overbearing. its just their nature. I wouldn't take it personal. however when baby is old enough to start learning what yes and no means if you notice grandma trying to go against your wishes in a playful way just gently stand your ground. enough to be understood but not too harsh as to not create any resentment☺
She may be including you in that when she says our meaning you , him& her .
Lol @lilchicken right?! like I've cut everyone off from coming to the hospital due to them talk in about taking our baby home and stuff like that like he's mine😠lol even my SO Will back off a little but it helps he feels the same, at first he didn't but when he noticed it too he wasn't okay with it