Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
my baby daddy's ex wife works at the hospital I'm having my daughter she is just a cleaning lady she tell me they let her move the babies around I'm scared this women will take my baby she even tells me if I have my baby early she could see her ever day .. my doctor only delivers at this hospital I don't know what to do . this is why I don't want to have my baby early ..
Tell me if I'm wrong here. My husband's sil has covid. She's obviously quarantining in her house but is still loving on her kids and husband. I'm sorry but if I had it I would lock myself in a room. She hasn't gotten her kids tested... they're obviously doing the whole remote learning and quarantining for two weeks but she plans to send them back without testing them on the Monday after Thanksgiving 😬😱. My husband thinks I'm overreacting but I told him I don't want to see them on Christmas. I'm in the middle of iui cycles and don't want to risk this. Besides I don't think I could sit in a room with her knowing how irresponsible she has been not only with her family's health but those that are coming into contact with her and her family.
Advice please ? Long story... I'm getting married in April we decided no kids other than our own two and my niece And nephew as would end up more kids that adults and it would Cost so much more plus wanted parents to have a day/night to enjoy themselves. Anyway my "maid of honor" ( hasn't done much to help but cause me stress) has 5 kids her youngest will be around 5 months old she's breastfeeding him and keeps telling me she is gonna try and express ect... but I know she has no intentions of doing that and I worry she's gonna put me on the spot the day before and say he won't take a bottle (cos she wouldn't have tried) so she either can't come or has to bring him. I'm spending a lot of money for her dress, hair make up food ect... so deffo don't wanna be let down. But it's not just her that's got kids the ushers have kids and we said no kids. Now I know it's different as she's feeding him but I dunno what to do!? Do I say she can bring him (if my oh agrees too) or do I say she can't. This all sounds so awful when I read it but there will be two other guests that will have newer baby's than that coming and they arnt bringing them. The biggest thing is she's just not talking to me about any of this she's ignoring my messages and not making contact with me. But she's spoken to a friend about it who told her to talk to me and be honest about it all! Torn tbh as she's already not coming on my hen but still hasn't told me this!!! If she just came to me and said look I'm feeding my baby I don't wanna bottle feed him so either he comes or I can't I'd be happier she's being honest rather than dragging it out making out she gonna try and express. I don't expect her to I said it's down to her it's her baby. May I add that we fell out a while ago as she wasn't bothering with me ect any way we made up and I asked her be part of the wedding again so she could have said then I can but il have a baby then, but she didn't she just said it will be fine il sort out. So stressed ?
I can't take it anymore! Haley (yes my 1mth old and no I wasn't able to go through this "joy" of nursing my older daughter, Molly) has been screaming non stop for 6hrs! All she wants to do is eat and I can't have her attached to me all day, everyday! She has wanted to eat every hr on the hr for the past 3hrs! I put her in her room so I don't scream at her but I just can't take it!
Charlie·
Мама подростков, ждёт третьего
If it were me.. I would find someone to pass the msg.. You won't go after any child support and he never has to hear from you again and never even have to worry about being called the baby's daddy if he just signs this one piece of paper. But you will have to worry about the future if he doesn't because down the road people are going to be in his ear about this and may convince him to act on his rights to see his baby. And I promise, make no mistake.. he will be granted visitation at the very least.
Candice·
My big concern is he's a pos and I do not want him to get any rights to her. That's all I'm worried about. I wonder if since he has ignored me my whole pregnancy if I can hold that against him? I have a screen shot of where he wrote me back and said "it's not mine"
Candice·
I think I'm gonna talk to my lawyer about it tomorrow when I go pay my bankruptcy.
Candice·
I would trust me but he won't even talk to me! Every time I try to talk to him he blocks me on Facebook. And I dont have his number :/ I know where he lives but I don't wanna just go over there cause we ended things on bad terms ON HIS PART.. He cheated on me and I left his ass. @luvmybump
Charlie·
Мама подростков, ждёт третьего
I would have him sign away his rights now while he's sweating balls that he's going to have to pay child support. It will be his incentive to sign. And Then you have nothing to worry about down the road.
Haley·
Мама сына (1 год)
@kinsleyraesmommy, yes
Candice·
If he wanted a DNA test HE would have to pay for it right? Not the court? @thehowtohippie
Candice·
Yeah he's pretty immature I really don't think he will want anything to do with her but the way his mom is she may force him to Try to get visits. But I hope not. If he was here with me thru my pregnancy it would be different but I haven't heard a word from him this whole time except when he wrote me and said "it's not mine" and blocked me. That was on Facebook. I don't even have his number anymore..:/ @katrina12143
Haley·
Мама сына (1 год)
Filing for custody, going to court ect. It costs a lot of money to do these things. It's not something you do "just cause" he might very well go to file to basically get back at you and turn around and say fuck it after seeing what it might cost him just to file for custody. He has no right until paternity is established which by the LAW is if his name is on the certificate or after a test is done.
Katrina·
В ожидании первенца
if he wants custody the first thing they'll do is make him take a DNA test. if it's court ordered there's nothing you can do. you can always strip him of his parental rights by proving he's the father (which also requires a DNA test) then proving he's unfit. honestly it sounds like he don't want anything to do with her anyways so if I was you I'd cut my ties. don't text, call, or communicate with him. just drop him like a bad habit and move on. I wouldn't get all worked up and worried about it until something happens.
Candice·
@mom2meatballs, thank you:) I hope so.
Haley·
Мама сына (1 год)
Basically how a court order works is the law is forcing you to comply with the order the LAST thing you want to do is to go against that order by not complying. That puts you then into contempt of court which is grounds for arrest, you can go to jail (unless you have priors that won't hold you but you will get booked) in that time she will be given to child service or next of kin (like your parents or something) and in that time they will also do the rest anyways.
Candice·
Oh no no I'm not putting his name on the birth certificate lol. He hasn't even talked to me this whole time and I'm 23 weeks. He's a piece of shit. I just wish I wouldn't have told him now because I don't want him to have any rights to her but I really don't know if he would even try to get any because he's immature and irresponsible and won't wanna pay child support. @thehowtohippie
LaShae Abney·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (33 нед.)
im so sorry you have to go through that. hopefully he just stays where he is and leaves you and the baby alone.
Candice·
I wish I never would have told him now :( @mom2meatballs
Haley·
Мама сына (1 год)
Yes you can be forced to do so via a court order. If you sue for child support and he contests it. If you don't want money they best steps are do not put his name on the birth certificate. Give the child your last name. Don't take him to court. If he sues for shared custody he'll be required to take a DNA test to prove his rights. If you put his name on the certificate you're automatically giving him paternal rights to the child. If he sues for shared custody sue, sue him right back for child support.
LaShae Abney·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (33 нед.)
what if its court ordered? @katrina12143
Candice·
So if he wants custody he can? Cause I don't want him to have any rights to her. So I don't want to let him do a DNA test at all. I'm her mother shouldn't that be up to me ? ;/ @katrina12143
LaShae Abney·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (33 нед.)
in my state i believe if its court ordered you have no choice. but i also know that in my state you can not take away a parents parental rights unless they sign something stating they want nothing to do with the child or you prove them unfit and unstable
Katrina·
В ожидании первенца
unless you want child support or he wants custody he can't make you take a DNA test.