I just want us to be a partnership ....I've never vented on social media about anything this is a…
I just want us to be a partnership ....I've never vented on social media about anything this is a first..
my SO is a great provider he has been working and taking care of most of the bills while I go to school full time and work part time...he buys the baby and myself whatever is needed...but in return he seems unhappy underneath. he doesn't wanna hang out take maternity pics and really enjoy the fun part of pregnancy and on the weekends the he doesn't really wanna be bothered...just have beer and play PlayStation... when I try to talk its like I'm forcing him to spend time he puts my emotional needs on the back burner everytime but it hurts my heart when I here him play the game online with people and he's laughing and making jokes with them...we are supposed to get married next month..and I really don't want to if its gonna be this way..
jennifer·
@avas_mommy, sorry, what's a "SO"?
missing137user·
Мама сына (9 лет), беременна (39 нед.)
Significant other @jenn4444
jennifer·
@avas_mommy, & just remember: as our hormones affect us in many different ways, so does the simple fact that we are the MOTHER, that alone makes us connect 100 x's more to the entire process. he just may be dealing with the anxieties of becoming a father AND a husband in his own way that seems oddly disconnected to you but may be normal for him. we ALL deal with changes of life & milestones quit differently. although you 2 are in all this together, it might not be that you feel the exact same &/or show it the same... doesn't mean he's not 100% excited, it may simply be the way he's dealing. 😊 id try & create an open, airy feel in a large area of the house, offering his fav beer & your fav snack - & have a talk that feels open & safe & not interrogation style lol (since you said it feels like you have to force him). putting forth the effort to create a comfortable feel, & making sure he knows your trying to purposely cause a light feel to it, may help him see that you are genuinely concerned about the way he feels & has been acting, that you are serious about needing answers & the way you feel and that your effort to compromise & put in actual work for this needs to be appreciated
Jamie·
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@avas_mommy, maybe the pregnancy is surreal to him? I honestly don't know how most men feel about something they can't experience, if you're close to some of his family or friends maybe ask them?
jennifer·
@tmoschetti06, oh! ppsshhh, duh! lol i feel like a big fat dumb! lol thanx!
Julianna·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (15 нед.)
Well maybe you should try sitting down and telling him how you feel and maybe see what is bothering him also.. I hope everything works out with you and your hubby
Tiffany·
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thank you everyone for the support..I'm going to try to handle it a mature adult and not turn it into something bigger...