I hate my husband is a higher up . They know he's married , so you have to show up, smile and meet…
I hate my husband is a higher up . They know he's married , so you have to show up, smile and meet all his juniors and other NCOs wives & girlfriends. "Example setting" and blah ! When he was a lance no one noticed I wasn't there now he's in charge of some shit and it is noticed when you are absent at job events. My anxiety is not handling this so well 😞 sorry if I'm rambling but truly I cannot stand this whole "bigger rank needs to be perfect" thing . To me I greet them all the same way regardless of rank . Everyone is grown enough to be an example. I go to support my husband but the whole "rank sit next to rank" bothers the hell out of me . I won't even talk about the rank wearing wives smh . Let me end this post
missing356user·
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What rank is your husband?
Capri·
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Not in all cases or states. I babysat for a lieutenant colonel in the air force who retired last week and ANYTIME his family needed him, he was so "high up" he left whenever he wanted... Anytime his wife or girls needed him. It could get better
Ashley Lopez·
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He's a sgt at avi but he also flys @harleyadtr
Ashley Lopez·
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Oh no he leaves if I need him to but the ball is mandatory for them . I'm not speaking in general I'm specifically stating about the ball . @rookiemom
Ashley Lopez·
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But he has his quals in hazmat as well so he's like the "go to guy" because he can bounce back and forth if someone needs help which is great but it's a lot of pressure for him then at events I feel the pressure because they introduce us to the families or gf or wife and they do so with excitement and call him hero and saves his ass and knows his stuff and he stays late sometimes to help night crew . I'm not saying this is bad don't get me wrong it just feels a little weird to me . He has completely changed since our hs days . And I have wives come to me asking how do I do it or what did he do to love his job and stuff so I also have to be on my toes as well. The FRO comes to me and very few other spouses for event help or input on the next spouse get together . Idk if u understand where I'm coming from but it's a little overwhelming at times . I also work at the daycare on base and some of the kids I have in my class are people's children at his unit @harleyadtr @rookiemom
missing356user·
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I understand. My husband is a SSgt and Marine Corp Balls are miserable! I understand the having to be a role model and be the perfect wife, but I just think of it as it helps my husbands career and I know he wouldn't tolerate it if I made him look bad in front of other NCO's. As for the FRO asking for help with event planning, I get that too! But since I've gotten pregnant the FRO doesn't ask for much help from me.
missing356user·
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But I do understand where you're coming from and what you're talking about.
Ashley Lopez·
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That's next when opening for promotion open in Jan . And it does but it's sometimes I don't have an answer because it's like you do these things unconsciously . I'd never make him look bad that's another small pressure on its own . This FRO is like really dialed in like really . If I showed you out event list and calendar you would be like she really out does herself which is awesome because everyone has a great time . Maybe it's just my hormones but work and this and crawling to the end of the semester of school I am dying @harleyadtr thank you for understanding I really appreciate not being seen crazy
missing356user·
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Lol, by no means are you crazy! Being a Mil-SO is hard! The only ones that don't understand that are the rank-wearing wives, and that's mostly because they see themselves as "trophy wives" lol, they're mostly just tag whores. But hey, who am I to judge? We're all in the crazy Mil-SO circle and we have to help each other out!