@their.bomb.ass.mom, yea. You both have to agree on the rules of discipline. And that's with every family. Whether they are the bio parent or parent via marriage. You can't raise them properly if you're living as 2 parents in 1 home @mandapanda25 but it's happening like a Co-parenting situation!

@mandapanda25, if you've asked him not to and he is still doing it. That's messed up!

@swtlilangl, I agree. I think I just need some time to be okay with it.

I am remarried and it used to bother me when my husband would discipline my kids from my first marriage. But we have talked and have come to an agreement of what's ok and what isn't. He has to have some say especially if he wasn't listening to you because you said he was already asked multiple times. Sometimes we need backup and the child needs to respect you both.

my thing is, we have only been married for 4 months. I honestly feel that it has to be earned. I've trusted the wrong men before and they just up and left. I'm cautious. he does financially support us, but I do my part as well. I have spoken to him about it before, but he still does what he think he should do. I feel disrespected. @camdensmama @lizette95 @their.bomb.ass.mom @thebroadwaybaby16 @niki664

Agreed, what @camdensmama said, unless you don't parent that way, but my SO is not my first child's father but I allow him to discipline my child as I would. that's an agreement we made though.

I agree with @camdensmama my husband isnt the father of my boy but his 100% financially responsible for him so i don't mind plus my kid sees him as a dad and calls him dad since he was only 1 1/2 when we got together makes it even a less of a problem.

well then if you don't parent that way then that is different, but also remember that he could have just snapped and it could have been an accident... now if he does it repeatedly even after you've talked with him about it then that definitely calls for anger... but unless you've addressed the issue with him then he doesn't know so you can't really be mad at him.

Nope. If he's your husband and is helping parent as well he has the same rights as if he were a birth father (my opinion) no offense. (:

I was raised around yelling , too, and I don't believe in spankings . I have my own set of beliefs and even I don't scream at MY son. @thebroadwaybaby16

my son was in the kitchen and was told more than once to get out and it pissed my husband off and he yelled "get out!!" and I'm pissed over it.

if I had a child from a previous relationship, then no I wouldn't... my fiance would have been their step father and in my eyes a step parent can discipline too.. and there was plenty yelling in my household growing up, and I understood it quite well... lol

yelling even if he's the daddy isn't good in my book

Even if they're old enough to understand yelling never helps a situations only makes it worse

You shouldn't yell at kids period they don't understand