Girls, I need help it's my son's 1st birthday and OMG it's stressful.. 1. I still don't know where…

Girls, I need help it's my son's 1st birthday and OMG it's stressful..

1. I still don't know where to do it. My son's family lives in Clackamas and mine all the way in Cornelius/Hillsboro . They DON'T want us to do it half way. And I can't do it at my family side cause the dad's side of the family won't be here and I can't do it at the dad's side cause then my family won't go !!!!!! Ugh help ???!!?

2. I need help finding good cheap places for birthday supplies !!!!

3. I need a THEME can't make up my mind !!

4. It's in December and I'm going crazy !!!