Jamonica
jdeshazor
Jamonica·Мама дочки (5 лет), беременна (39 нед.)

I thought I'll ask you guys instead. Due to having breast cancer 2 years ago had to get a double mastectomy so when it comes to talking about breastfeeding I don't dwell on the convo because it makes me emotional. well my neighbor was breastfeeding and so before she stopped she asked did I want her to breastfeed my baby when he comes. I felt offended because that's a bond between mom and child. she doesn't pump so that means she would want my child her breast. she got mad because I said no. so was I wrong?

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jdeshazor
Jamonica·Мама дочки (5 лет), беременна (39 нед.)

@bria.k, yeah its a beautiful gift breastfeeding a child but its a bond between mother and child I don't want to have to knock on her door every two hours for my child to nurse. I want to hold my child and feed him myself not watch someone else do it

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bria.k
Bria·В ожидании первенца

I think she was wrong for getting mad that you said no but I also think you were wrong for getting offended. It's a beautiful gift and if I couldn't breastfeed id want more than anything for somebody to offer that to me.

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happymommy_

why would she get mad though? you are not wrong...it is your baby and your choice...i hate it when people get mad at you when you make a choice for YOUR baby like if you are obligated to do as they say

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bella91

you're definitely not wrong if it made u uncomfortable. i agree breastfeeding is a super personal choice and action. but not breastfeeding doesn't make anyone less of a mother or selfish. I wouldn't feel comfortable with my child nursing at another women's breast, for the simple fact that's my child and I don't want someone else having or sharing that bond and for health reasons. although I do know my great-grandfather had a wet-nurse because his mother dies when he was a baby. Again it's all a personal choice and I think it was a bit bold of her to ask such a question being your neighbor.

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mrsshove

she may have just been trying to help, but she could have been more sensitive. I grew up Amish, when my mom got really sick, women from the church took turns nursing my baby brother. different scenario, but thought it may help. @jdeshazor

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fifismommy
Sarah·Мама дочки-младенца, беременна (32 нед.)

No I would have felt the same !!!

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no062014

absolutely not. it is a personal choice and you are right that is a bond between mother and child

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babiio1
Takira·Мама сына (9 лет), беременна (28 нед.)

no do what makes 69th comfortable babe... #FUCKcancer

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