I NEED HELP LADIES !!! I don't know what to do . So to make a long story short my father is a dead…

Try to explain to her that you don't want pictures released until your comfortable that way no ones feelings are hurt and you are giving it time before telling her hey I don't want him having anything to do with this child . Good luck to you and your family!!

@countrymommy0916, I wish that would work but she listens to whatever he says, it's like she's scared of him

i trully dont see this going the way ud like. im a bit pessimistic. but since ur grandma is there for you. id just ignore ur dad. let him brag about the baby if it does happen. about her overprotecting her son...ur dad...its understandable. most women can be the enforcer of justice and good upbringing...but obviously she could not do that. so she had a blind love for her son. u will be a mother i dunno mayb first time...and u will hopefully not feel so much pitty or guilt for ur childs mistakes that u turn a blind eye to them. hugz. just want u to not stress over stuff like this. u need to be happy and focused on ur family.

tell her no photos soon as she gets there...if she Cant respect...ACCESS DENIED

she needs to respect you and your decisions if she can't I will treat her like I treat her son

agreed with @babiio1

@yummycake, your right . It's just I can't & will never forgive him . He started beating on my mother when she was 8 months pregnant with me & has treated me like shit so I really refuse for him to be apart of anything! But your absolutely right ! I need to stay focused

@babiio1, that's a great idea ! I think I'm going to tell her that !

and make sure she keeps her phone away like seriously..she may try and sneak some....u know how that goes

@jdrose, your right ! I think I'm going to lay down the rules before I even call her to let her know I'm in the hospital. Just so she is well aware

@babiio1, I'll really cuss her tf out if she tries to sneak some smh I'd be pissed

Yup just simply as soon as she walks in say we are not allowing pictures of the baby so please do not take pictures of her and if she has her phone out ask her to put it away. Or you could even say please no cell phones or cameras out. We are trying to make this as much of a family time as possible

@hward12 that's exactly what I'll say . That doesn't sound rude or bitchy at all . Thank you so much ❤️

@kie123, welcome!

the thing is you shouldn't have to worry about this with people this is your time this is why i do not want anyone at the hospital with me and my husband i dont wamt him sending my ultrasound pics to his mother but he has and I'm like why are you doing that she needs to be reaching out to you and me but I'm pretty sure when March or april gets here she will be asking him about the baby i dont want anyone around me period

@jdrose, omg why tf do you sound just like me !!!! I stg I feel exactly where your coming from ! It's bullshit ! His mother hasn't called or anything to make sure we are cool & now all of a sudden she wants to pop up & ask about the baby & shit ! No bitch bye ! His mother was a dead beat mother too so I don't have shit to say to her either , her & my father both want to play a roll in Aniylas life but couldn't do shit for me or Nick Ctfu how do you expect to be a grandparent when you couldn't even be a parent??

bro exactly his mother barely played a role in his life and she acts like what she has done to him has never happened and that's why when me and hi m have our disagreements I feel so damn bad bc all he has is me his family act like he did something to them when they are in the wrong I told him I don't want his petty mother to be around my child at all she walks around like she did everything for her kids and she hasn't did anything but depended on her EX HUSBANd all her life as a grandparent even my family is sorry so we have no one but no I'm banning all my family and his family we need people to support the roses lol

@jdrose, yes !!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 family will do you worse than friends! All you got is your baby & him at the end of the day ! It's ridiculous how parents try to flip the script like they aren't in the wrong ! Tuh , if it was up to me his mother wouldn't see the baby either but I'm not even going to argue with him over that . It's not worth it

Maybe tell her NO pictures until you get the professional ones done because you don't wanna startle the baby and you wanna be the one to send them out first ? It's an easy out idk girl that's a hard one but I have a "Dad" like that too he doesn't even know his grandkids birthdays been in and out my whole life SMH etc .....@kie123

@just9monthsx3, yeah I'm just going to flat out tell her no pictures allowed . She can either take it or leave it .

There ya go forget beating around just tell her how it is @kie123