is anyone else having trouble with deciding on what your babies last name will be? I have my parents on one end telling me it's best to give the baby my last name until me and my boyfriend fix things and decide to get married. and then I've got my boyfriend (who gets upset at just about everything and feels as if he's just a "baby daddy" if the baby doesn't have his last name). I've had a lot of people tell me that I'll know what's best for the baby when the time gets closer or the baby gets here, but I can't stand to have anyone upset over something so small..
Yes we need to pray I still live with my ex he's very controlling as well and I suspect he's cheated or been cheating .. Also ditto on both abuse areas mostly emotionally ... And yes same again I still love him a lot I do think he's going to be s great father though it's just I want us to be a family 😕 maybe that's a selfish reason to not give the baby his last name since I don't doubt him being around though he's not as supportive right now as I'd like him to be 😞
thing is when and if you get married you have the option to change your child's last name as well as your own. my boyfriend and I are not on the best of terms right now, I currently live with my parents again because of the abuse (once physically but verbally all the time and he takes away my phone and doesn't let me leave when I want to) which is why I am having issues with the baby and his last name. I still love this boy but that's just it, he's still a boy. I don't doubt he'll be a good father but I'm afraid he'll be even more controlling with the baby being involved
No that question is very valid like I said I'm not sure either shoot maybe we will be more sure when the time comes ? Let's hope so 🙆🏾
I have no idea but now everybody's making me think I should go his last name too .. I was going to do mine 💁🏽
I recommend you dont do both names. my mom did that to me and i absolutely hated it. everyone always asked why and then asked if i was married. it sucked.
we're are not married, but I know even if something was to happen between us hell take care of her but I wasn't comfortable her only having her last name because his ex wife refuses to change hers back so I did his last name then mine. it can be changed later if we get married
Even if there isn't a chance of marriage if he's there and a good dad I don't believe there is any reason not to have his last name. This topic makes me upset 😟
as long as he wants to be in the picture and be a dad I would go the dads last name. because if there is a chance of marriage. you'll all want to match.
before I got married i didn't have my dad's last name and he raised me. still bothers him to this day.
Don't allow them to factor into that decision. It's between you and dad only. If they're allowed to butt in now and appeased, I can only imagine what the next 18 will be like...
I dnt see why its even an issue. Whether youre married or not hes the father.
last names are easy to change , doesn't matter if he's the father or not If you want baby to have your last name do it and change it later