New on here.. But I needed a place to rant to people that would either get me or have been there once in their lives.. I'm 20 years old and pregnant at 21 weeks.. I'm going to be a single mother to the fact that the man I thought loved me and I thought had cared for me doesn't truly care nor love me. Since I found out very early that I was pregnant(2 weeks) him and I fell off maybe it was my fault due to when we first got into a relationship I had cheated(2nd week of our relationship) I had came clean with everything the same day i told him I was pregnant which I felt was necessary if we were going to be in a relationship for the long run. He isn't so innocent either I've had problems with finding out multiple times he was talking to girls behind my back(not sure if they were ever messing around) but I've caught multiple numbers in his phone, multiple girls in his fb, and he's lied to where he has gone. I'm not saying it was good to cheat at all I just felt like we needed to be honest with each other.. After I had to him he started to slowly get abusive.. I had left where we were staying to live with my mom for the simple fact I didn't wanna bring harm to this baby or loose the baby. He has told me multiple times that I left cuz of someone else was my baby's father when it's not true I've had in my head for a year that I've wanted his kid and to start a life with him if he was willing.. Which before I came clean with everything our relationship was semi perfect obviously we fought but he didn't put his has hands on me as much as he has been.. So I now visit with him every month sadly once a month due to me not having money or a job(which is now fixed) and we have been struggling due to him talking to other people and I finding out.. I really am trying to stay in this relationship even though it gets super abusive ever time I leave to go back home and that he has stayed disloyal and honest.. I just want to know what should I do?? Family and friends have all said leave him you've done so much for him(he's been in jail 9 months of our relationship already and I was there the whole time.. Even if I had no job I'd sell off or pawn off my stuff so I could talk to him).. I've pawned of my laptop(he promised to get out, but never did) and I wouldn't have regretted that if we had a better relationship.. I lost my PS3 in pawn for his "addiction" to marijuana(even though I know you can't be addicted).. I've lost my true self in him for a long time I've changed myself to try to make him love me more cuz I love him.. I still love him.. Please help me.. What should I do...
I'm back at home now, I have no social life.. I talk to a few of my best friends on fb and occasionally they will come over, but hardly. I really need someone to talk to.
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I was in that same situation with my oldest daughters father we got together when I was 15 and I got pregnant at 16 and I had my daughter at 17 and in that relationship I lost myself in after I became pregnant he became really abusive and I left him when I was 7 months pregnant it was really hard trust me I've been there but I can tell you honestly speaking that's the best decision I could have made for not only myself with my child I just got it stuck in my head if he can put his hands on me while I'm pregnant he will definitely do it when my daughter gets here and after I left him I finally found my true self in now here a couple of years later I married and on baby number three in a more healthy environment for me and my daughter mentally and physically just look at your self-worth you're so much more than what he's putting you through and I know definitely you will find a man that will cherish and appreciate the things that you have done for him the things he has taken for granted I really hope you do leave that situation cuz it's not healthy and adds extra stress for you while you're pregnant stress that you don't need I just want to say that I'm here in my inbox is open whether it's 2 o'clock in the morning 2 o'clock in the afternoon if you feel that you need someone to talk to I am here good luck to you I hope you make the right decision not only for yourself but you're lovely bundle of joy !!
No relationship is worth this amount of distrust, abuse, and bullshit. That's not real love. I'm 30 and spent 10 years with someone who had problems and I made excuses. Coming from experience.... You can't love/respect anyone unless you love/respect yourself first. LEAVE HIM...
Thank you for all supportive comments. And I will take everyone's advice. It means a lot to hear from others not knowing me in person.. Thank you again.
& if he's putting his hands on you he doesn't love u nor the baby. do what's best for u & ur child.
I feel like you should really leave him for good. It doesn't sound like he is any good for you & you can do great things for yourself & baby without him. If he has been abusive before towards you I wouldn't want to take the chance of him hurting you or baby further down the road. But then again you know yourself better than we do. I think you deserve much better. Private message me if you would like to talk more. I pray everything works out for you.
been in similar situation... leave him he won't change. took me almost 6 years to realize, long story short
Well welcome to the app love! I'm in the same boat, not abusive part but everything else. I still live with my baby's father and it's hard everyday. But if you need to talk I'm here! I also have a group chat where we talk about things like this when needed or if you feel like you want to be more direct or private! You got this though mama. You do what you need too for you and your baby I know how hard it can be too just walk away
I know you don't want to hear it but your safety and the babies safety is very important and I'd stay far away from him I've been in a few abusive relationships they promise change they promise that every time is the last time but it never is please stay strong and away from this poor excuse of a man
please feel free to message me! I've been in a similar situation
Thank you again for the comments. I'm glad to hear other stories even though my hormone levels are high and I kinda cry. Thank you guys this really motivates me to see what is so hard to see.. Especially coming from more experienced people.