DESPERATE FOR ADVICE!!
So like a month ago I had picked up my finances phone to search on Google chrome. I clicked the chrome icon and the last page viewed popped up and was a transsexual porn site. So I looked at the history and he's been searching gay and shemale porn for some time and I never knew. When I asked him about it he said he was just curious. At first I took that as an answer and left it alone. It was still eating at me and I brought it up once more. Then he tells me he had a family friend that had molested him as a child and he was watching it because it reminded him of what he doesn't want to be. Sounds like bullshit if u ask me.
Yesterday I was looking through my old messages on Facebook and came across a message a man sent me back in May. It was screenshots of a sexual conversation between two men on Craig's list. I remembered reading it and saying out loud wtf. I showed it to him and he replied and said don't send my girl this bullshit. The emails had only the name of the guy that sent them to me but not the other persons.
Thinking back I feel like that was a warning and I just brushed it off. I asked him was he the other person and he swears he isn't.
I've tried to contact the guy that sent them so I could ask questions and get the information I need. I haven't heard from him yet but I have a friend that is friends with his ex girlfriend. She left him after finding out he was carrying on a homosexual lifestyle behind her back.
I am so crushed because I know in my heart it probably was my fiance on the other end. He says I won't just let it go so we can move on with our lives.
What would you think or do? I don't think I can be with a gay or even bi man.
Any thoughts or opinions would be greatly appreciated.
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I can't even look at him as a man and I feel horrible for it but shit idk what else to do than jus tell him to go
I'm at a really low and confused point right now and on top of it I was diagnosed with ppd and I was finally getting back to normal :( I'm crushed
he is gay.. it's better you find out now than when you become married... You guys need to work through the issues with counseling or just break up. I'm sorry this is happening to you. I can't imagine how difficult it may be for you right now .
years ago I was with a man that had been to jail a few times... long story short I looked on my search history and he was searching gay porn on numerous levels... he never truly admitted to it but I knew from his shady responses something wasn't right... even if he was bi I wouldn't have wanted to deal with that, so amongst other reasons I left him
I've been completely non judgemental and told him it doesn't make me not love him but out of fairness I should have the option to choose if that's what I want or not. He says he wants our family. I feel like tho if he's suppressing who he really is that he will eventually go that route
In my opinion if you're just curious then you only look once. I've been curious about stuff and looked it up, ONCE. But I don't continue to do so because I'm not into that. If he's continuously looking at that stuff, then that is what he is into and it is not merely curiosity. I would definitely talk to the guy from Facebook before confronting your husband. Then once you find out if your husband was the guy in the messages then you should confront him calmly and lovingly. If he is gay he can't help that and he's going to need you to be there for him. He's probably really confused and scared to talk to you about this, if that is the situation. Good luck girly.
You should talk with him openly about it and explain to him that you want him to live his life happy and you don't want to hold him back but you would love that he be honest with you for the sake of y'all and your family . If you go into the conversation with an open heart to what he's feeling he's more likely to be honest then if you go confronting him and upset he may be embarrassed or shy and hide things and you really need honesty at this point
I would definitely wait until you get in contact with the mutual acquaintance. Then from there talk to your boyfriend. And if you don't feel confident about his answers...your next move is to consider if you want to be with him or not.
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