Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
My heart is incredibly heavy today and I'm in tears as I write this. I don't know if last night or this morning should be counted as the worst day of my life. I got a call from my hysterical mom last night around 11:30. From what I could understand through the sobbing was, my dad was in the hospital and they wouldn't let her see him. I race to her house, a LONG 45 minutes away to find SEVERAL police cars in her driveway, crime scene tape everywhere and people in paper booties and gloves walking in and out of the house. I run into the house yelling for my mom when I find her, my sister and my nieces laying on the floor in a huddle sobbing. I finally get a policeman to tell me where my dad is, call the hospital, gave my dad's name and was immediately put on hold. A man picked up the phone and said this is Chaplain something or the other and I just KNEW why they put this man on the phone....my dad was dead. DEAD you guys, my dad is GONE, not EVER coming back, not ever gonna call me his sweet baby girl ever again, GONE! I am BEYOND HEARTBROKEN. I am the oldest so am trying to stay strong and make the phone calls that need to be made, handle the things that my mom just simply CAN'T and this is the HARDEST thing I've EVER had to do! WHAT are we gonna do without him?!?! NO ONE can answer that for me! The worst part is he chose to leave this way, my dad committed suicide. My happy go lucky, top of the world, man's man dad committed suicide. If he had EVER linked his moods with his alcohol use this NEVER would have happened, EVER! He NEVER would have done this to my mom! They've been together LITERALLY 24/7 for the last 25 years. They work together, live together, play together.... EVERYTHING. My mom is going to be SO lost! Sorry if I'm rambling...I might be a tad delusional. I haven't slept but an hour or so since the night before last and I'm kinda scared to. I saw some things I can't unsee last night. Did you know when the crime scene people leave, the family is left with the mess to deal with themselves?? My sister couldn't deal so her job was to get mom out of the house, which took me, her and my husband to do and I was left with clean up. I have NO words...just nothing to describe what that was like. I wish that on NO ONE. I miss him already, my heart hurts and at the same time I want to yell at him, tell him how stupid he is, punch him and be MAD as hell but I just can't do anything but cry. Please keep our family in your thoughts. These next few weeks after going to test our strength as a family. This is a pic of him walking me down the aisle. He was SO proud, honored and emotional this day. When he came in my dressing room to get me he stopped dead in his tracks, began to cry and said oh sweet baby girl... you are SO beautiful, you look just like your mama the day I married her and I CAN'T BELIEVE you'd honor me with walking beside you to take you to the beginning of your new life, NOTHING has made me happier he said. That's the kind of man my dad was and I will NEVER fill the hole he has left in my heart.
I broke down at my moms house today ... because of the debt we owe and Passover is coming and it’s a very expensive holiday ... it was just way too much .... my mom i guess told my brother that I’m suffering and he called me over and asked me why i didn’t just ask for help, and offered to help when i need it . And gave me basically 4K to help for the month and if i need more to ask ... now one thing about me , is that i will suffer silently and won’t ask for help.... I’ve always been that way. Deff thankful for my family atm. I will start to do eBay too . I have stuff i can sell... anything to help out alittle help my husband ... whatever i can do.
23&Me update: I’m so sorry to keep you all hanging! It’s been an insanely busy last few days. So this is going to be a long post, heads up! So it’s always been a joke in our family that my dad wasn’t actually my biological dad- So I’ve had an idea. My cousin on my dads side did 23&Me so I did it then so it would match us as cousins (or not) and we’d know. Well, as you know it came back that he wasn’t my cousin. Therefore concluding that my dad wasn’t my biological dad. And that’s okay! My dad was a wonderful father. I never wanted for anything, and I was fully loved. So no worries! He passed away in 2016. It linked me with a first cousin that I’ve never met. She immediately messaged me, and we started to dig. It was almost immediately that we figured out it was her uncle on her mother’s side. And after talking for a bit, it came out that he ran around with my dad‘s/mom’s friend group. The story goes that my dad and mom were together.l in 1988. They then broke up for about five or six weeks. Then got back together and stayed together for another 6 years. My due date was March 8. So when my mom figured out she was pregnant (at 29 weeks! Super late.) she went to my grandma freaking out. They counted back and figured I was conceived when my dad and mom got back together after their break. Welllll, I was then born February 21st. 9lbs. Fully functional. No nicu time. Even the doctor said “ we may have got the due date wrong”. So that would mean I was actually conceived during those five or six weeks when my mom and dad were broken up. So anyway, I met my new cousin for drinks! I’ll link a picture so you can see the similarities. She’s so sweet and we immediately hit it off. We have so many things in common, and she invited me to her bachelorette party and I just got an invitation to her wedding. 🥺❤ We are already so close. And then the following night I met the biological father, my aunt (my cousins mom), and my grandmother. I started off with letting them know that my father will always be treated with respect. We will only speak of him with respect. I told them that I love him fully, and I had a wonderful childhood so there will be no hard feelings there. Everyone totally agreed. I’m super thankful because the grandmother is super liberal. 😂. I was a little afraid considering they’re from southern Illinois. Hahah. Everything was super easy, and fun! My biological father, Dale, was thrilled. He said he questioned my mom twice after I was born, and she shut it down and told him that I was my dads. He was then pretty much kicked out of the friend group, and he told me he had put it completely out of his mind and that he was sorry he didn’t push more. I told him it’s totally okay since I had a happy childhood. He texted me after I left telling me that that was the happiest he’s been in at least 15 years. We will be having a family reunion in October so everyone can meet me & my kids. Honestly I think it’s kind of a blessing in disguise. My dad has passed on. And while it breaks me to know my kids will never know him personally, I think it’s cool that they could potentially have another grandfather to get to know! So I have to 2 half siblings! I am the definition of family oriented, so I’m so excited! He will be telling my siblings today, and I will be telling my mom that I know either tonight or tomorrow. I’m going to approach it with nothing but kindness and let her know that I’m not upset at all. She’s very emotional, so I’m hoping that goes well. Honestly she’s the only one that I’m worried about. My sisters (that I grew up with) also think it’s super cool. Everyone has been totally excepting so far and I think this could be a really cool experience!
Trigger warning UPDATE IN COMMENTS So going off of my poll about using correct body terms I need some 2nd opinions. I feel like I am so paranoid about this. So my sil has been with my brother for 12 years now. Our families are really close. We clean for her mom and step dad every two weeks and house sit from time to time. Her mom absolutely adores my dd so we would bring her with us. I started noticing that her stepdad would always want to bring her in another room. I didn't think anything because they could occupy her while we cleaned no big deal. Her mom would often lay down because she has severe fibromyalgia and has a hard time with pain. But then he would say things like let's go in the play room and change your diaper. And if we went into that room to vacuum or clean the bathroom he seemed burdened that we went in there. Odd. I mentioned it to dh and he started getting uncomfortable with her being alone with him. I just always had a weird feeling about how he acted and the things he'd say. I just didn't really start paying attention until after awhile. He always says things like why don't you come sit on my lap. It always just sounded weird when he said it. I don't want to cause trouble if nothing is really happening but would his behavior strike you as odd or weird? Should I be concerned?
Justina·
Мама двоих (4 года, 11 лет), ждёт третьего
You gotta let it go and worry about you and torus those who are not supportive just keep your distance. It's hard not to care when you have a big heart but don't let it consume you. I'm a firm believer that praying makes things better. I hope it gets better for you ❤️
Alyce Curtin·
В ожидании первенца
don't worry about anyone else. you have your boyfriend and your sisters and brothers. They care about you and support you so just focus on them. Don't stress out over it.
Tailor·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (16 нед.)
omg exactly what my fiance's mom said because he makes $500 every Thursday. and she thinks I'm using him for his money he doesn't believe her though thank god.
Karla·
@mamaofangelbaby0610 she blamed me for the pregnancy saying I'm only after her sons money 😒 and all I said was "you know very well it takes two to make a baby "
Manina·
В ожидании первенца
I can say from experience, they will change how they are acting. Try to ignore them now, because you can miscarry from crying to much (stress) but as you get farther along they will slowly come to you, and don't rush them. Just because you got pregnant doesn't mean they have to bow down at your feet, it hits some people really hard and like I said from experience with my pregnancy now they will slowly come back into your life. Your way to early to be stressing out! Try to have the "f it" attitude towards everything and everyone. If they want to be mean f it. they wanna ignore you f it
Tailor·
Мама сына (1 год), беременна (16 нед.)
I know how you feel like almost exactly my family hates me and my fiance's mom hates me and can't stand me tells my fiance that he's gonna regret being with me and getting me pregnant.