Okay so I feel like I need to get something off my chest before I explode. So I started a new job (I work at a gas station now) working 3rd shift in this small town. Well they call it the cop shop because all of the city police hang out there like ALL the time but that's not the problem I have a huge crush on one of them & I'm pretty sure he does too. We flirt all the time & he will just stand at the counter to talk to me while I do stuff. Him & his wife are separated & going through divorce (she cheated) I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years & don't get me wrong I love him with all of my heart but I feel like if we broke up I would go after him. He's a sweet & funny guy & I have no idea why I feel this way but I do. I've even had dreams about him. Now I wanna make it clear that I would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend but how do I make these feelings go away?
haha wow I'm unfortunately from that little bitty town and have spent plenty time walking to the cop shop at night for energy drinks. Anywhooooooooooo... I've been through this before... I promise going after someone while you are in a relationship is a BAD idea. You have been in a steady happy relationship for 2 years. Why throw that away for a guy you barely know??? Stop flirting, stop being extra nice. do your job like you're supposed to and go home to your SO. or leave your SO and flirt away... But don't be petty.
@iloveyou, if he knows he really isn't respecting the fact you have a man . Like I said he knows but doesnt care to still flirt. Yes he might be going through a rough time but instead if him flirting he should just focus on himself and his kids. Even that you cant make excuses for this person if you don't know him that much. He not the first or last guy who goes through a divorce. If thats what he tell you, he I only saying it to make you feel bad. If cops hangout where you work I'm sure there had to be somethings you can do to keep your self busy from making yourself available to him. If you love your man then you should just let that guy cop know its not right for him to be flirting with. You have to let him know cause if you don't think its a problem later on it will be for your partner and you. Dont let something you may think is small turn into something big. Just think about it flirting while in a realationship is a no go. Im sure if it was the other way around I know you wouldn't like it if a female keep hitting on your man knowing he has you.
@mami1212, @cristina545 he knows I have a boyfriend & I would never leave my boyfriend for this guy. I feel bad enough about myself as it is but I feel like he's only flirting without meaning too. He's going through a lot with his cheating soon to be ex wife & now has custody of all 5 kids. & I can't exactly avoid him because he & all the other cops in town hang out where I work. I hardly ever go outside to talk to them unless I'm smoking a cigarette.
flirting to me is cheating especially if you haven't told your boyfriend about it... so with that being said switch the roles what would you do if your man was flirting with another female? tell the guy you have a boyfriend and just want to be friends remember the grass isn't always greener on the otherside
If you respect your realationship as much as your partner is you with you, you should make it clear to the other guy your not trying to be nothing more then a friend. because if you keep letting him sweet talk you he will only think your choosing. Like you said you love you bf keep that love together and don't wander off. Just cause other guy give you compliment doesn't always mean they have good intention in respecting other realationship. So just make it clear or avoid talking to him. its makes things alot better and set you back on what your suppose to do which is work.