I need to vent. I hate venting because I feel like I'm just being selfish but...
My boyfriend (Baby's daddy) moved in with my folks and I. Everything was great until my mother started getting nasty with me and not telling me what was wrong. I'm close to my mother so her doing this to me felt me feel almost alone. Well, two days she told me she doesn't want him here. Feels like he isn't right for me and that hes nothing but a bum...She told me to get rid of him or else there's going to be a HUGE argument. I can't deal with that, I'm already anxiety ridden and I don't want any tension or arguments. I had to tell my boyfriend to go back to IL (which is 18 hours away) he was okay with it but wants me to come back with him after the holidays. My mother screamed at me not to. If I leave then she won't bother with me and the baby...
I'm so hurt and I'm so mad at her for making me choose. I can't do that. My boyfriend has done so much for them. Got them food, picked up my moms meds and used all of his gas to help them. I don't know what to do...
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Honestly Hun this is when you have to decide what is more important to you. Being with your child's father or trying to maintain a relationship with someone who is supposed to love you no matter what. Honestly if my mom ever said or did anything like that to me I would pack myself and move ASAP! My mom and I are extremely close. She can not decide who is best and what is best for you anymore. You have to decide that for yourself and if she can't put her feelings aside and be there for you and the baby no matter what you decide then you don't need to be around her. I guarantee this is just the first step in trying to control what happens with you and baby. Next it will be you aren't doing what's best for your baby. You need to be doing this instead of that. But I agree with everyone else I don't believe she really would do that if you decided to move with your boyfriend
That's kind of selfish of her to do that to you and your child. I'm sorry shes making you feel like this. Follow your heart. I doubt your mom will disown you and the baby and if she does then what kind of mother does that make her? Maybe she thinks he is a bum and that's okay... But that doesn't mean he can't change. Maybe he needs some help. She should give him a chance to prove himself. I've seen men change for the better for their children.
when I was in that position I packed up and left with my baby's father. it took us a few months to get on our feet, we literally just settled in a month ago but here I am due in 8 days so much happier and on my feet 😊 my mom wasn't too happy but she's dealing with it .
@neonjellyshark1205, your mom won't do that tbh switch the tables and stand in his shoes... How would you feel if he let you leave alone... Pregnant... He's just as a part of the baby as you are... If not more... You get to feel the baby he's going off of pure love
your mom won't do that. you are her daughter and that's her grand baby. my mother tried to do the same thing to me and then when it started getting closer her whole attitude changed. the baby needs it's father more than it needs grand parents. @neonjellyshark1205
That's not right she's making you choose.....