Y'all. I need some advice! Please! Not regarding my actual pregnancy but it does regard my family's…

What do ya need help with? I can try..

what's up? I might be able to help we have a shitty situation with the in laws

@mtp123, Alright. So, basically I don't have ANY relationship with my bio mom(very long story) but it's for extremely good reasons. Or at least in my opinion. I am however still very very close with the rest of my family. (My moms parents. Siblings. My aunts. Ect) my family was very well aware that I wanted my bio mom to have absolutely NO part in my sons life. Not during my pregnancy or after he's born.( I don't talk to her so why would I let her talk to me son) well last month at my baby shower my uncle(her brother) and my grandma(her mom) took pictures at my baby shower. Which was all dandy. Until I realized the reason they took pictures wasn't to remember the day. But to show them to my bio mom. I didn't find out about it until the day after my baby shower! Which was foolish of my because I let my Guard down to enjoy my day and they 100% took advantage of that. So I basically politely ask my uncle why he would do that against my will. And his response was "they're my photos and I'll do with them whatever the hell I please" after that I called my grandma and informed her of the situation and she basically just defended her son. And my bio mom. So with all that being said (sorry for the rant) I still for some reason really want my grandma to be a part of my sons life. But I don't trust that she's not going to sneak photos to my mom some how. So I don't know if i let her be apart of my life or my sons life. If I let her come to the hospital or if I don't. Or if I even EVER let them see my son because I literally don't trust anyone. And I really am just so torn! And it makes it even harder because she's the only grandma that I have left. My dads mom passed away 3 days before my baby shower. So I'm still so heart broken! And it just sucks that they did what they did against my wishes!

@steph11,

I would probably tell your grandmother no pictures, and to not discuss you or your son with your bio mom. if she can't respect that then you might have to be a bit harsh

you have to make a decision on who you want in your sons like by your guild lines if they can't follow them then they shouldn't be in you sons life

@steph11, yea. I've already set guidelines that she's crossed and broken many many times. But it was regarding me. Like telling her how my pregnancy is going and ect. So I feel like she will cross the line and tell my mom all about my son. And I don't think she has the right to know anything about him.

by the sounds of it she's going to! my mil had done a similar thing. she shows pics of me and my daughter to my boyfriends ex wife. when I do not want her seeing pics or ever meeting her. d

@steph11, ughhhh. This is so stupid that I have to stress over my family being a part of my sons life! It's such BS.

I'd look at it like let you bio see what she's missing. I get your feelings because I don't talk to any of my family because they tried taking my kids away just because they were mad I moved out of state to get away from my abusive ex. Some things you just can't control and some things aren't worth the stress. If anything it should make your bio feel like shit to see y'all happy and doing it without her.

that is true^^ that's a tough spot in sorry

@babycasey, true. I think I kinda got it figured out. Thank you mamas! 😘@steph11

no problem love! I've been there and that's how I had to see it to keep myself from blowing up lol