I normally stay very private and reserved but here lately I can't shake this feeling of being emotionally numb , I see…

@brandylemonds15 well you gotta do what's best for you and you have to deal the way that's going to get you where u need to be. just take your time and deal with things don't rush it

@islandftm,

So far I've been able to kinda hold it all together for Madison's sake but I really do have days were I'm fine and then some days I don't even want to get out of bed and my mom doesn't understand that I'm doing the best I can

@brandylemonds15 time is what it'll take. you'll have good days n bad days just remember it's part of the healing process. take as long as you need

I also just wanted to say that there are lots of moms who don't feel bonded until way after delivery! It can take time :) but I think your situation is really affecting how you feel.

I can definitely understand why you feel this way. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't even imagine how difficult this must be for you. Talking to somebody is a great idea! And if will change when she gets here, I'm sure of it! Because you will have this piece of him forever to love and take care of. And that will create a bond between you two!!!

I'd give anything for him to be here for the birth of his little girl but I'm hoping maybe talking to someone and once she's here this will all change @islandftm

Yes I went through the same my child's father isn't actually dead but technically in my mind could be once baby got here it all changed

I know she's a miracle and honestly she's the only reason I've made it thru losing him because I loved him beyond what I can even express with simple words and I just want to be the best possible parent that I can so if that means I need to get some professional help I'm going to do that I just didn't know if this was something that most moms go thru or if it's just me @shaunatb @xaviermom1221 thank you both for the input I've got an appointment in a week and I will definitely talk to my doctor

Yes. Tell the doctor, it's normal for some moms and they can send you or suggest some places to go or call. It's better to get it taken care of early so when baby comes you can feel all the excitement you are supposed to.

I think you should most likely do talk to someone. he passed after you guys made a life together... that's tough. but one thing though...rejoice...you still get to have him for the rest of your life because he lives through her. I think you're going to love and cherish her more than you think because she's from someone you loved without no end.

I'm thinking I should say something to my doctor because here lately it's been getting worse I just feel emotionless all the time @xaviermom1221

I guess it's just all the worry about being a single mom and everything else my fiancé her dad passed away on Father's Day and I'm so scared that if she looks like him I'm not going to be able to have that bond because it's going to hurt to much , @shaunatb I don't know if I should tell my mom I need to go talk to someone or if all of this is normal

You should talk to a therapist. It sounds like an early post partumn (however you spell)

it's OK. sometimes it takes some moms to actually go through the pregnancy labor and delivery and THEN feel the connection. nothing is wrong with you.