so my MIL and FIL will be there at the birth of my son and my mom wants to come with her boyfriend.…

Try saying it's too many people there as it is and you'll feel more comfortable if he wasn't there. Some times our family members forget that this is a big moment for the entire family but momma bear, especially, wants a little privacy on this experience. Plus he's not really your father ( but don't mention the "not my father" part lol)

@nickysmom89, I feel like when she does get there and only see my bf's parents she'll feel as if I lied to her when only seeing them. even my big sister won't be there because she will be giving birth in Dec but I'll try it out thank you

I am going through the same situation with my mom! sadly my mom's bf is a racist bigot and keeps talking like this is his grandchild and he wants to be there for me after calling my bf the N word multiple times. ugh no if he comes to the hospital and my bf sees him, he's gonna kill him. he already was throwing racial slurs at my unborn son. I really hope my mom has the brains to not bring him, but if she does bad stuff will happen.

I totally understand what your saying. I just talked to my sister and she says my mom won't come if her bf can't come. and I feel like that's fucked up. she can't force him on us. and if she doesn't come for her grandchilds birth just because he can't come that shows how much more she values him compared to her kids @maliksmommie

Oh my mom is the same way, I think she thought I was joking at my baby shower when I told her I don't want him anywhere near my son. but I already know my mom chooses her bf over her kids, for God's sake she let's him hit her kids and yell in my face when I was 6 1/2 months pregnant. I hope for the sake of our kids, that our moms will realize what's more important to them bf or their grandchild.

That's a hard situation. How far is your mother coming from? I know with my mom I feel like even if I don't like the guy I allow him around when my father and stepmother are there because I don't want her to feel alone if she is directly in my presence... Like my wedding. So I feel like it's your day and you deserve to be happy but if your mom doesn't come you will miss her so maybe a compromise like he can come but not in the room or he can come but can only stay for an hour or something.

He can't be around he's rude and the things he's said to my boyfriend it's just not going to happen. she's coming from Sacramento. she says he's all she needs so I'm done.

@rhonda.otero,

He is all she needs?! That hurts :( well if he is going to be disrespectful and mess up your happy place and moment that you will remember for the rest of your lives then it's your mothers loss to choose him over the birth of her grandchild.. God forbid they split she will never forgive herself for missing that

She just responded forcing the fact that he's coming and all that. after I told her he can't. my feelings are hurt that my own mother won't come cause she doesn't want to drive alone. she gets on the damn greyhound for everything else.

@rhonda.otero, she was there for my sisters first child.but won't be here for mine.