You will figured it out the way not to affected your baby it going to be hard at first but being a mother is realizing that the baby comes before anything. You will more likely use your experience in the way you take care of your baby. So you wont make the same mistake you feel hurt you BC you dont want to harm the baby

Man, I need to get some sleep. I actually meant to say I agreed with @xslowlyxbrokenx but to give you some encouragement. 😘. I'm a total mess this late. @cheyannlouise

@Cheyannlouise, haha. I realized I had you switched. I meant to say I agreed with you. Lol. Oops!

@cheyannlouise, your experience will hopefully help you to make different choices...like refrain from speaking ill of your baby's father (even though it maybe very difficult at times). There are many ways to learn from what we have experienced. We will also make our own mistakes, but we can learn from those as well. Have courage...you can do it.

I guess because I grew up in a broken home and saw the way it affected me with my Father always talking about my mother that's why it scares me and I don't want my baby to ever feel what I had to at such a young age @jjbutton

@xslowlyxbrokenx, I agree with @Cheyannlouise As long as you provide a good home and love to your child, he/she will be ok. My parents divorced when I was 4, I don't consider myself as one who grew up in a broken home. We were loved, taken care of, and thankfully my parents never talked bad about the other parent to us. I know not all are so fortunate, but we were pretty lucky. My parents have been divorced for almost 30 years and they get along great. My dad still does legal stuff for my mom (he's a lawyer) and my mother and stepmother play bunco together every month. I am fortunate to have more than two parents.

@cheyannlouise, Everyone has issues they been through mine my Different then yours and vice versa. I was really young so I wasnt as effected as some people are. I just want you to know your not failing as a parent as long as your kid number one and just because a home may be "broken" in the real world sense it doesn't mean that the home has to be "broken"to your kid. All that matters is that baby knows how much you love them and would do everything in the world for them.

thank you honesty that helped but I'm so sorry for what you had to go through no one should ever have to go through that.. your a strong person and I'm thankful for the advice you gave me @xslowlyxbrokenx

Honestly its bet to find out first then later when the baby is born. This is going to sound horrible but my real mother died when I was two my parents was young parents and on the verge of a divorce. After she died my dad remarried so ill have a mom by the time I was 3 so I grow up not in a broken home bit in a home with a step mom and dad. If my mom had not died Idk the life i would have had but im sure it wouldn't have the same as the life I had. I teach elementary kids and I see all time the kids going through a divorce and how hard it is for them. Then I see the single Parents kids and how different they are. They are actually happier most Then the ones going through a divorce and grades are affected too and so behavior. If the kids has been used to the situation then they are ok but if they are just experiencing losing a dad or mom they are miserable.

thank you I just feel like I failed as a mother already 😥 @kelcikay

I know exactly how you feel 😓 give it time and things will get better! Sorry for what our going through