At what point do you have to just walk away ...the father of my unborn daughter had a complete…
At what point do you have to just walk away ...the father of my unborn daughter had a complete mental breakdown after I got pregnant and it has lasted for 4 fucking months. He's racking up charges because he was so self destructive. Now sober and in custody he is acting like the man I love again saying he wants his family and he'll do anything to never let this happen again. I love him...we've been through a lot together and now we have a baby on the way. I've never given up on him bc I know his potential and his heart but I'm coming to terms with how he may never be the man I need him to be... I'm 5 months pregnant I can't do this drama anymore no matter how much I want him to be ok. Has anyone else had a situation like this ...?
mrs.knapp15·
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I was and I decided to leave for the baby
stefaniamarie·
Мама двоих (2 года, 12 лет), ждёт третьего
@andreaooragnak, yes and I gave him chance after chance for 8 years until I left... That was 6 years ago, he's still the same and not part of his sons life... But some times men do change and turn their life around.. I'd say maybe give him one more chance to prove to you for the sake of your daughter and if not them say goodbye
Cora·
Мама сына (4 года), беременна (35 нед.)
Maybe you can tell him that you still need time to see if he's really changed for good. If you go back to him and he really hasn't changed, it'll mess with you mentally and emotionally and you have to be strong for when baby gets here.
Cora·
Мама сына (4 года), беременна (35 нед.)
also, I'd recommend you ask him to do inpatient treatment for the drugs or drinking.... Those things don't ever get better without professional help.
Andrea·
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thank you so much girls @cuety83 and @coraanne ...we've home through addiction and sobriety together but I really expected him to rise to the occasion like I did...I've become a lot more responsible and I would have to stay away from him at times bc he would get violent..not so much towards me but punching walls and other crazy acts. when he is clean he is my best friend and lover but I'm afraid he won't get treated correctly for the mental illness that ties into his using. My entire pregnancy has been a roller coaster ride bc of him. Btw he may go away for 4 months... it's for the best but I can't believe he may miss the birth.
Jessica Velilla·
Мама дочки (8 лет), беременна (29 нед.)
My daughters father decided to have me and his ex wife pregnant at the same time also while I found out he was cheating on me... If something is toxic you walk away. There's no need to have that additional stress, especially if you're financially independent. Love him from a distance and try to be supportive if you wish. But remember someone should be there supporting you.
lilchicken·
Мама сына (8 лет)
If you do what's best for you and your baby you'll never go wrong. I agree with everyone's advice.
Andrea·
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@lilchicken, thanks girl. we'll make it somehow