🔺WHAT WOULD YOU DO?🔺
The father of my child is my ex. We dated for almost 2 years, got pregnant, lost our son at 22 weeks, and broke up. Almost a year later we end up having casual sex ONCE, and I end up getting pregnant again. I am due in December and he hasn't come to a single appt (he lives 2 hours away and he doesn't have the money -his excuse). I'm so torn on whether or not to let him be a part of her life. He has a girlfriend now. He says he wants to be around all of the time, but my argument is that if he "can't even come to appts NOW..what makes him think he would visit his daughter after she's here? Especially with paying me child support". I have a sono next week that he will be coming to, and want to discuss it further with him.
Sorry for the long rant. I normally don't do this. Would appreciate any advice from someone in a similar situation maybe?
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let him be part if he wants its his choice and his loss, as for YOU, YOU have nothing to loose its going to BE a struggle just like any single mother out here , but its worth it you will gain at the END:)
@mommiesworld, Thank you. Hearing that makes me feel so much better :)
i would let him be a father but since he has a gf i wont let him try to be with me unless he wants to seriously commit
I'd say let him be a part of her life but don't be reminding him about her Or asking him to come see her. Have him make the effort and if you don't see him making a honey effort then I would just cut it off. My 2 year old's biological father is my ex. He jumped in and out of her life so much that she had no clue who he was. He would one month want everything to do with her and get her little heart all attached, then he would disappear and leave her hurting. I met a amazing man and married him and he put his name on the birth certificate (I had no other person on it but me) and now My ex has zero rights to her and to the state, my husband is her biological dad. She loves him so much too. My advice to you is don't let him jump in and out. if he goes more than a week without asking something about HER then he needs to go
Y'all are right. I just get all worked up and mad thinking about it. I don't want her thinking he doesn't love her
I'd say the same let him be apart of it because if you don't even try later on you're gonna be the " "wicked witch" to your daughter even when you were just trying to look out for her. If keeps doing what he's doing it's going to be his fault not yours but at least you tried.
Let him try to be apart of it, If he continues to flake out or not seem serious or interested there's not a whole lot you can do. Who knows the other woman may be holding him back you never know...
Let him attend. I wouldn't try to make it anything other than that.
(: I'm glad!