I was with a man 4 years ago. we had my son Alex. this man never helped, never paid and never got paternity established.…
I was with a man 4 years ago. we had my son Alex. this man never helped, never paid and never got paternity established. which in a way was good. he was abusive my whole pregnancy. right when I found out I was pregnant it started because he thought it was another mans. he was cheating on me a lot. I'd catch him. but quickly forgive him. after my son was born, I swore I would never let my son see this. 2 weeks later, he hurt me again and kicked us out with nothing. my son and I ended up in a local shelter. throughout all of this, I kept a job. I had to build us up again. not only was I struggling with the abuse but I was a new mother.
things are great now. I am engaged to a great man, Alex has a sister on the way and we have a beautiful house. and... that man still hasn't gone for paternity.
my issue is.... why does everything he says or does, including his friends still piss me off? he continues to bash me saying it's my fault. it's been 4 years. you think people on his end would grow tired of it. I know this guy still bashes me cause he screwed up and has nothing but I'm tired of things getting back to me. I don't wanna give up social media cause to be honest, it's my support system too. it's been so long and yet, I still can't get over it. the abuse I'm done with. it's everything else that ticks me off. I have a restraining order against him but it's crap. states he cannot be in the same room but he can still contact me via phone, email, etc. he would always change his number. follow me. now he has no clue where I live. my fiancés name. my sons school. my car. nothing. I'm so ticked lately!
Amy·
Its verry comman for it to bother you,Ive been divorced from my abusive ex for 14 yrs, he still blames me for everything, and he messaged telling my husband now, that its freaky that i talk to his family and friends, but guess what? He lived with MY cousin, invited my sister to his housw! Hurting people hurt people! They cant handle taking responsibilty for all there wrong actions, so they blame us
Lauren·
Мама сына (4 года)
so, I'll probably have to live with this the rest of my life until he gets bored, moves on, or has another child? :/ I hate how some guys get away with so much. I mean he used to tell me "if it was so bad, why didn't u leave when you were pregnant?" oh my goodness!!! I was too scared to. it's so complicated most people don't understand unless they go through it. that's why I love this app, I just got on here yesterday but I can finally relate to people. such a relief
Kristina·
Мама двоих (2 года, 5 лет), ждёт третьего
It doesn't get better in my case... I have two beautiful child with my ex and even though he has a new chick and is supposedly happy he still finds every reason in the world to contact me and then finds every reason to argue and buck... At the end of the day I feel like he has his new chick chirping in his ear but it gets so old and it's so hard to ignore... I feel so bad to my boyfriend because sometimes my anger spills over to him but he is so understanding and continues to try to help me work through it!!
Lauren·
Мама сына (4 года)
aw sounds like man you have now is so good to you. that's always good to have the nonjudgmental support there when it's needed. I have been hearing it never ends or gets easier. just hope someday people on his end grow tired of it. it's so easy for those people to have someone's side when they know nothing about the situation. who did right and wrong. I know I wasn't the best in that relationship. towards him or my child but it's one of the worst situations to be in. and I give props to anyone who comes out a survivor and those who come into our lives and take our children as their own. so admirable. I really wish this situation of domestic abuse had more awareness.