🚨RANT (kinda long and all over the place but it's my first one so I'm entitled 😜).... My family and…

🚨RANT (kinda long and all over the place but it's my first one so I'm entitled 😜).... My family and my husbands family are completely opposite when it comes down to being close. His family has pissed me off with 2 situations.... 1. I am planning a cruise for my husband 40th bday this year and the only thing he has talked about was building a better relationship with his brothers (5 boys no girls THANK GOD! Lol) so I wanted to surprise him by having his brothers and close friends attend. I solicited help from the oldest brother the one he's close to with getting everyone together months ago. He sends me a message after a few days saying how none of them can attend because of the cost $350/person with 5 months to pay? Okay! So I decided after a couple of months I will reach out myself only to find out he hasn't even talked to anyone! So now of course they can't attend because of cost. Even though I still feel that's a bunch of bs because they can seemingly go everywhere else.... 2. I am planning a 4th bday party for my daughter on this coming Sunday. One of his brothers has 6 kids. I send out a text and evite every year for whatever I'm plan for my kids even if it's cake and ice cream because I like to be organized. Well initially it was cake and ice cream at our home but I am changing it to a splash park since it's going to be hot outside. Probably the last hot weekend in MI. So far his brother with the largest family had not said if they were attending or not. Irritates me because even if it at my house. His family alone is 2 packs of hotdogs and buns. I believe when you have a larger family no matter what the occasion is you should courteous and rsvp for EVERYTHING! Even ice cream and cake. So unfortunately they may or may not be able to participate because I'm only buying a certain amount of wristbands and they will go to whoever RSVP first. Now my family is the opposite.... They feel we are so close they show up for everything invited or not. My uncle and his family came over Saturday thinking it was my daughters bday unannounced. No, we did not open the door no call no entry! It wasn't a party here but still. Damn! Whew! I feel better now 😀