9 Weeks Post C-Section: Growing Love for Mila - Realistic Postpartum Journey

It's so refreshing to hear this truth and know others feel it too. Sitting on apps like this and reading about how people are so strongly and truly in love with their newborn and how the newborn has changed their lives and seeing all these cute pictures I was starting to feel so down. I love my child but for the most part I feel like I'm just getting through day by day, trying to get past this stage. My husband seems head over heels for him and I'm truly struggling. I don't know this child, I don't know it's personality, it's ticks, it's ways, also it doesn't seem he knows me yet. Yes I know he knows my smell and knows I provide milk and comfort, but he doesn't seek me out, smile at me, respond to me. All these things will come, but until then I can't say I feel this overwhelming love. It kept worrying me daily and having suffered from depression before I was wondering if this was ppd, I have no idea. Glad to hear others feel the same.

@tuftyturtle damn right ... I'm not on Facebook or Instagram and even if I was I wouldn't put baba on there - but when people do they show a glamorous lifestyle of smiley baby in lovely outfits all happy all the best bits put out there .... We all know there's nothing glamorous about a newborn baby ... And we're all in it together even though it can feel quite isolating ... When people are honest about how it really is I find it a huge comfort

I think you're right in what you say in that it's hyped up. I think people love to think their relationship with their child is more special than others...not because they're being bitchy just because they love their child. but realistically everyone loves their baby, nobody was head over heels in love with their husband the moment they walked into them...you fall in love with them for their personalities. I didn't even realise that I didn't feel that intense fierce love until one day it hit me. I think you get so caught up in the day to day routine of caring for them that you don't really think about anything else. Plus social media adds to the glamorised idea of a new baby. Nobody banged on about it in the olden days. Just got one with it 🙊

@tuftyturtle I know that's exactly how I felt!

@kathryn-elizabeth this 'overwhelming love' is hyped up so much, if you love you're child that's it... I'm not even listening to others glittery stories about their love for their child , I felt so bad but realised I love my daughter and I don't love her any more than anyone else loves their child it's not a competition , we are mothers and we love our children just a we should :-) xxx

My son is nearly 11 weeks and I still don't feel any intense love for my son 😞

So true. I didn't have post natal depression either but I didn't experience that ferocious, intense love for my son until he was 10 weeks old. I still loved him, I loved him as a bump. but not the overwhelming intense love that I feel now. I think....who feels that for a stranger anyway ?!?!you have to grow to love people