you been through too much in your pregnancy anyway I don't blame u

@islandftm, ...me an him had that talk so many times like so many an im over it i dont have a problem with co parenting but for as long as he disrespects me an as long as he ignores me is as long as he will be ignored when the baby gets here@islandftm

I say let you both have time apart before the baby comes meet up tell him he has to change n get better if not see you in court. I wish my baby daddy would hit me...tub 187

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No problem. You don't need to be around all that. Surround yourself with positive people and forget about him.

thank you for understanding where im coming from i dont want my son growing up seing that or being taught how to be disrespectful to ladies @mrsjosephine @sexxymama83

I wouldn't tell him. When you are giving birth it's supposed to be a stress free environment. He should have thought about all of this before he cussed you out. Being at your child's birth is a privilege and if he chooses to disrespect you to the point of where you are now then hey so be it. No woman deserves to be called a bitch. My oldest daughter 'dad' did the same thing. Told me F me and my baby he was cut off since then and that was when I found out I was pregnant with her.

record everything and be careful how you talk around him cause he can record you also. keep calm and collected act it out if u have to. ny cousins bf took away her baby he made her get angry and she blurted out something she shouldnt he won full custody and she got visits. it was awful. be careful hun

also go to police and file an incident report about when he raised his hand and his abuse during ur pregnancy you can use that against him if he tries to get custody. t he y give u a pink slip and thats your proof. write everything he says

@quansmommy, that's still his child .... No matter what. But okay to each its own .

oh no way if he is abusive then thats it. you better record him for proof. this is your chance. act like you are okay and when he black outs again and threatens have ur phone ready. if he says he will he will. do everything you can to protect your baby

an he says she like if i was to get a bf he will take me to court an get full custody because his uncle is a lawyer @mrsjosephine @ainsleighsmommy @islandftm

i just said he has raised his hand at me be4 he blacks out a lot an i dont got time@ainsleighsmommy so it is a good reason to me.

i understand but give him a last chance for the baby's sake. afer birth then decide if he deserves to stay. i agree he should never speak to u that way that was very wrong im not saying its right. he needs to change if he really wants to see his baby.

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@quansmommy, so because he called you a bitch and said fuck you , that's a good reason to not tell him when his child gets here ? No not at all, birth is beautiful for everybody. Imagine how you would feel if immediately you and your child and said you couldn't see him/her for 2 days ??

@mrsjosephine,

my baby daddy only smokes weed n plays video games so I know where you're coming from

i had to the truth hurts but it is what it is an if u cant respect me as the mother of your child thats how its gonna be i dont think im in the wrong honestly

trust me I understand. men are stupid and get even more stupid when a baby comes. but if I had a father for my son I'd definitely choose to be the bigger person n talk to him n see where his mind was. if I told my child's father I had a baby he wouldn't care anyways....

u shouldn't have told him that about his family. women have to keep their secrets. i also felt same way but i never told my hubby. i just never left my baby alone with them. we just visit now and then

i still dont trust them as one of his sisters doesn't want anything to do with me. I also was about to give birth without him but then i realize it was stupid. he should be there helping you. he should see how hard it is to be a mommy and how his mother went through so he can become a man. if he doesnt change after that then KICK his butt and dont look back.

@islandftm, @summerbaby its now being childish to me i dont got time for it he needs to grow up when he can talk to me like a grown ass man an act like one then maybe id tell him but tell then im not telling him tell after an he has raised his hand to me be4 an done things he shouldnt have an always has the same lame ass excuse

speaking about whole lifes he doesnt have a job and he isent really paying n e thing he worried about video games and hanging out with his friends and spending his money on other shit an when his lil money that he has ia gone witch already is really its just me an my mom an his mom doing all the work

coming from someone who's baby daddy left if he wants to be there let him. you can't be childish with a baby on the way. Yes you're stressed but he's going through the pregnancy just the same. you may feel like you're right and granted you may be but where does that leave the baby? in the middle stuck

@quansmommy, my fiancé has freaked out at me & now less than 2 weeks from delivery we are just fine. We've broke up 6 times during this pregnancy (and he had never left me before prior) just because he felt he wouldn't be good enough. You could be right. But just keep it in mind this is a very scary time!

he's not stressed he called me a bitch said fuck you an broke up with me because i said i dont feel comfortable with his family watching my baby an says things to me like he'll just pay child support he doesnt want n e thing to do with me this an that im not saying ill ignore him for forever but just intell like a day or 2 after the baby is born@queendavis @summerbaby @mrsjosephine @ainsleighsmommy

yeah and to add. it also helps change man a little. like they see how hard you went through labor so they apreciate you more and respect you as their child mother and the baby if they see u giving birth and are there participating.

also you need him there girl. he will be your squeeze helper. you squeeze the hell out of his hand as you push like theres no tommorow. even if his hand falls off. it makes you feel better during childbirth.

I agree with everyone. It doesn't matter what he's done, unless he's been abusive or something very terrible like that, then I believe he deserves to be there when his child is born. I know pregnancy takes a giant toll on us, but it does take a toll on men too. They're whole lives are about to change as well and sometimes it can be very stressful for them. Maybe try and see if he's okay and ask him how he's doing, you never know what could be going on with him. Obviously it's up to you but I just think a man deserves to see his child be born, it's the most special and amazing thing to experience and witness.

Haha. My spelling is so off right now. But you get the point. Exhaustion at its finest.

@quansmommy, you still have some time & he might just be stressed. But don't escalate things quite yes. NO you're not wrong. You're carrying this child and if you end up making all the decisions in the end then that makes him a DEADBEAT & I'm 1000% sure someone can better will come along if he can't step up. Stay strong! 💪🏻

bad idea. even though it sounds good it will only make things worse. its also shows him you are not mature, he will use that against you. if you are angry then you shouldn't have to do it at his sisters house. do t let him manipulate you. tell him you dont feel comfortable and so you have changed the place and if he wanys to come hered the date and address. the end. dont give him time to even talk or argue. he will throw his temper tandrum but u stay calm and collected. soon he will feel like a fool and repent for being a big jerk vecause because you are pregnant so he shouldnt be acting like a little immature brat

Yes. That's still his child wether you like it or not and he at least deserves to know when his child comes .