Heather Adkins
hcollins2015
Heather Adkins·Мама сына (10 лет)

Okay so idk if it's the same for every state or whatever ( I live in West Virginia ) but I need some advice :/...

So my son is due in about a month, and the father is between two different guys ( I didn't cheat long story :/ )

One of the possible fathers lives in North Carolina two states away from me, and the other possible father lives like 20 minutes away from me, but I told him and he said he doesn't want to talk about it, then blocked me.

Once I have the baby, and they ask me who the father is, how am I supposed to get ahold of the possible father that blocked me and even have him sign his rights up or even let him know? And what do I tell the hospital when they ask?...

Do I just tell them a name and they will find him? Or what... Cause if I don't tell them who the father is then I will loose all medical coverage.

Also if the other possible father wants rights, does that mean he can take me son out of state away from me?... I'm so scared either way that something bad is going to happen... I don't want my son taken two states away with out me... And I don't want the other possible father around cause he use to abuse me and he smokes weed and I don't want that around my son. 😢😢😢

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jomommaclark
Josette·Мама четверых детей

just don't put him on the birth certificate and give baby your last name NO MATTER WHAT.

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no3lastone4me
Megan·Мама троих детей

And if they do need the father's name all you have to do is get them to court order a DNA test. If there is no way around it then there is no way around it

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riahanddomsmom
Paris·Мама двоих (9 лет, 16 лет)

you can, and if your state has a social service building or place. but I don't think you can lose your insurance or it should be any problem at all when your ar the hospital.

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peppermintmama
Ashe·Мама двоих (10 лет, 14 лет)

If the father pays child support, then he has the right to see his son. You can go to court to fight visitation but chances are they will only do supervised visitation, fathers have rights to their babies just as much as mommy's do if they want them.

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peppermintmama
Ashe·Мама двоих (10 лет, 14 лет)

If you know who the father is then you put his name, no one can take your son from you unless you are considered an unfit mother and daddy doesnt get visitation unless he is paying child support or is head of household.

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hcollins2015
Heather Adkins·Мама сына (10 лет)

I just hope the father is the one who is closer to me... That way if he does end up getting rights I'm closer to my son :( I'm just so scared.... @momof1and1ontheway @jomommaclark

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jomommaclark
Josette·Мама четверых детей

gotta see a judge first before visitations are given.

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momof1and1ontheway
momof1and1ontheway·Мама двоих (9 лет, 14 лет)

Oh okay. I'm pretty they can't before all the court stuff. But he might get visitation. I'm not sure

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hcollins2015
Heather Adkins·Мама сына (10 лет)

I know who the father is either way. Cause either my son will be mixed or he will be white. So I don't have to go through all that, I just don't want them around my son or taking him far away from me... @momof1and1ontheway

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momof1and1ontheway
momof1and1ontheway·Мама двоих (9 лет, 14 лет)

Child*

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momof1and1ontheway
momof1and1ontheway·Мама двоих (9 лет, 14 лет)

If you don't know they will not make you put a random name down in the hospital and will not cut off your insurance during the process of figuring it out. As long as you cooperate with hold support and work to figure it out they will not cut your insurance off. Good luck! :)

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momof1and1ontheway
momof1and1ontheway·Мама двоих (9 лет, 14 лет)

Dhs *

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no3lastone4me
Megan·Мама троих детей

They cannot deny you medical coverage because you don't know who the father is lol

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momof1and1ontheway
momof1and1ontheway·Мама двоих (9 лет, 14 лет)

Well you can't put a name if you don't know for sure. So I'd contact the friend of the court (they deal with the child support stuff) or contact dogs and they will give you the child support number for your state and you can list names and then go to the court house and do one Dna test after another. I just had a friend go through it. She finally figured out the dad and then they changed the birth certificate

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jomommaclark
Josette·Мама четверых детей

even if they are in state they'd have to take you to court for visitation rights

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jomommaclark
Josette·Мама четверых детей

if they are out of state they can't just take him. they would have to take you to court first.

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hcollins2015
Heather Adkins·Мама сына (10 лет)

I know like 4 family members and a few friends in the situation in in or worse and they have lost there medical coverage due to not telling the hospital or having it on paper who the dad is... @no3lastone4me @momof1and1ontheway

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hcollins2015
Heather Adkins·Мама сына (10 лет)

Either way I'll know who the dad is just by looking at my son cause if is is mixed or white, but I just don't want one to be able to take my son 2 states away with out me going also... Or the other to bring drugs around :/ @jomommaclark @mommaov3

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momof1and1ontheway
momof1and1ontheway·Мама двоих (9 лет, 14 лет)

You contact your friend of the court and they will help you with the DNA tests.

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no3lastone4me
Megan·Мама троих детей

You do not have to tell the hospital who the father is, all you have to tell them is you don't know! The hospital is not who files for child support for you, you have to do that on your own!!! Who ever told you you have to tell them the father for medical coverage is wrong, not at the hospital! If you are on Obama care, or welfare, you do all that on your own, no one does it for you!!

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mommaov3
Trinia Sawyerr·Мама троих детей

If there is no signature of the Father then you are correct, no child support can be filed. You should still be able to get medical coverage though since you have a child. They will not take the baby away especially if nobody signs. If the father of the child is in another state, then they probably would have you make arrangements for that person but before any of that, there needs to be a paternity test done to see who the father is... then they will go from there.. but talk with your case worker if you haven't already. I know for sure though, if no father signs, no child support, but medical coverage shouldn't be affected.

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jomommaclark
Josette·Мама четверых детей

I dunno what to tell you. seems like they shouldn't be allowed to do it. I guess just do what they want you to do. give the names let them attempt to deal with it.

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hcollins2015
Heather Adkins·Мама сына (10 лет)

If I don't give a name or anything, I automatically loose my medical coverage etc. @jomommaclark

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hcollins2015
Heather Adkins·Мама сына (10 лет)

I have to do the same thing... But I don't want either my son to be able to be taken 2 states away, or the other one to be around due to drugs and being abusive :/ @alayna22

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jomommaclark
Josette·Мама четверых детей

what about I had a one night stand I don't have a name

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alayna22
alayna22·Мама дочки (9 лет)

Im in the same boat (kinda) the BD left and Ive heard you have to tell them a name so they can hunt him down for child support in order to get medical insurance 😐

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california12632
Cali·Мама сына (9 лет)

Ohh okay do that then!

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hcollins2015
Heather Adkins·Мама сына (10 лет)

I don't have to put the fathers name on the birth certificate but they tell me I have to tell them who the father is that way they can get his money or whatever. And if I tell them I don't know then they ask a list of names of everyone I've been with and dna test them. @jomommaclark @california12632

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california12632
Cali·Мама сына (9 лет)

My cousin is leaving the father name blank

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jomommaclark
Josette·Мама четверых детей

call them and tell them you don't know who it is and how you would go about it. who told you that?

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jomommaclark
Josette·Мама четверых детей

you can just say I'm not sure who the father is. if either want things to change they can take you to court. which they probably won't anyway.

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hcollins2015
Heather Adkins·Мама сына (10 лет)

My son will have my last name, but if I don't tell them who the father is, then I will loose it cause the government wants to know so they can make him pay child support or just get there money. @jomommaclark

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hcollins2015
Heather Adkins·Мама сына (10 лет)

I'm not sure how to talk to one... Could I just talk to the person who gets all the info at the hospital about the baby etc for the birth certificate and they help me?. @parbear

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jomommaclark
Josette·Мама четверых детей

idon't think it's possible for you to lose insurance bc you don't have a name for your child's father. just give the baby your last name.

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riahanddomsmom
Paris·Мама двоих (9 лет, 16 лет)

best thing is to Tak to a Social worker.

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