For moms who got pregnant before marriage. Do you plan on letting your kids know the truth or…

I'm telling him the truth because I mean we were engaged and the date doesn't add up lol

Lol. Well. never tell them a date. and in my culture. parents don't talk about there love life. I ain't know when my parents got married until my 20s. They had me five years after marriage so they can talk @edomke

We're telling her because she was our on birth control and never missed it , used a condom, first time we ever had sex with each other baby and to me that means that we were meant to be a family 💕

aaawwww <3 @paisleysmama0216

As long as you are with the person it should be ok. I did wait however.

Plus were waiting until she's old enough to walk and be in the wedding

I did wait but it is gonna be hard to explain that he and I began the process of divorce before she was even born. It's sad really but I won't lie to my daughter. I am too afraid that she would find out and that it would cause more damage that way than telling the truth

I'm telling him the truth. marriage now a day's doesn't mean much to everyone. in my opinion marriage is just a piece of paper... a man's word means more to me, and my man's word ain't shit so..... why even marry?

but this is my situation lol.

I'll raise my son to be the man his father isn't. that way marriage means more to him than a piece of paper

I'll tell my son the truth. It's noting to be ashamed of. I agree with some of the things @mssjudyk said marriage is just a piece of paper. I know ppl that are together for years with kids & are better off than married ppl. I don't see the big deal.

I don't really care if my kids know that I wasn't married. their father and I have been in love for a long time and to me marriage was just a piece of paper. so I'll tell my kids the truth :)

if my girl asks I'll tell her. we have been together 5 years and were engaged for 3 when we got married when I was 6 months.

I'm going to tell my son the truth. In all honesty, by the time he's of age to be thinking of sex, I doubt the whole "wait til marriage" thing will even be valid anymore. Lol. Lord knows at least half of our generation if not more isn't following that rule.

In the beginning I was stuck and wanted to rush to get married before our baby was born so she would never have to ask questions. When I was younger my uncle got his girlfriend pregnant and they rushed to get married and happened to marry EXACTLY two days before my little cousin was born. My mother gives out Lenox ornaments for big occasions in our family and gave one for their first Christmas together that year and my cousins birthday both with wedding date and birthdate enscribed on them. When my cousin was older she used to say "mom, you and dad only got married two days before I was born". In the beginning my aunt was worried about it but now that I am kinda sorta in the same shoes she told me it did bother her at first but there is no harm in her knowing the truth. The idea of you being married to your "partner" has no reflection on how good of a parent you are. I figured I would just share my thoughts because thinking this way made me feel better about my "situation". Btw, sorry it's so long! 😖

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