hi I'm new to this site. I decided to join due to being frustrated with my daughters sleep schedule potty training is a…

hi I'm new to this site. I decided to join due to being frustrated with my daughters sleep schedule potty training is a nightmare and was hoping to get some advice before I lose my mind. she is 3, very independent, doesn't listen , doesn't mind discipline and is now become a potty training nightmare. she refuses to go #2 on the potty she gets a brand new pair of panties to go and she always is holding her private part like she has to go but won't when she is taken to the bathroom. HELP!!!