My husband works 8 - 5 or 6pm as a painter and I am a stay at home mom, 30 weeks pregnant and have a one year old. When he gets home he doesn't ever really help me out with taking care of my son. I literally do everything from bathing him almost daily to making his food and his dad's food with my son on my hip while he relaxes. Still doing this at 30 weeks! Everyday..
He works everyday..
He helps after work and one day off in the sense were he plays with him and has him off my arm for a couple minutes sometimes and will watch him if I ever go out with a friend (which I don't have any but one that never has time for me, and when I do go out its for like one hour) but he never just helps me Becuase "I deserve it or I need a break" so when I complain about how hard my pregnancy has gotten... CUZ it has. Omg its way harder than my first. Especially when I don't have sick days ever. Anyways, he says he does his part and works to support us and all I do is stay home and how hard could it be. And that I shouldn't even be complaining or saying shit at all BECUASE every women has to go through it and it's not his fault that it's hard for me and that I need to stop feeling bad for myself and handle going through a difficult pregnancy and having my one year old 24/7. Does any one else's bf or husband say anything like this to them while UR pregnant??? He never showed sympathy with my first pregnancy but I forgave him CUZ it was easy on me... But my arms and back R literally breakin... I think I'm loosing it mentally not having a break. And if I do get a break... He gets one too. And every other time, he gets one too BECUASE he works so hard for us. Anyways, does every guy say this at any point to their wife/gf or is mine being really fucked up? CUZ I keep thinking a normal guy wouldn't say this and he would help more BECUASE I literally do it all. Like I'm the best fucking mom and wife and supporter. Fucking everything. And I'm starting to feel as if this isn't going to work out CUZ I don't think I can be with a man that devalues everything I do or achieve. And I'm married to this guy. What R UR guys' like during pregnancy??? I don't get if there's better or all the same 😓 but regardless im so hurt idk what to do about it :( I don't think it's fair for me to take it) I was raised to know better but yet somehow im in this situation with my husband telling me this and I'm just stunned beyond belief)
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@mrs.scott24, omg I know what U mean my husband gets mad when my son is annoying him by just being a baby and it hurts so bad that's why I do all the work and yet he tells me that I don't love him when I'm frustrated like I feel like I get mind fucked. I don't know what to do either. It must be so hard for U... I seriously wanna cry like I really pictured my life and husband different
@blessedmom, thank U for UR kind words im surprised more women go through this I started to think I was the only one :(
@gabby0317, ^^^^ above comment is for U .. Sorry preggie sometimes messes up the hashtags
@ha bby0317, wow that sounds nice... Lol how do u suggest I give him a wake up call? Becuase I have left my son with him and he does realize how hard it is but he forgets so fast and Goes back to saying it's my job I need to deal with it :( he makes it seem like it's all that's asked of me but it really is so much :( im not saying I don't want to be a mom I just want some fucking help.
This is how my husband use to be. Only I was working at the time as well. His wake up call came when I deployed for a year and a half and he was he taking care of our daughters. He was only home with them for about 4 months before he deployed himself but that is all it took for him to realize how much work it actually was to provide daily for children. I am a SAHM now but he never makes me feel like me being home all day is any less than him working all day. He is very sympathetic to my needs as his wife. But I also think that it has a lot to with his relationship with his mother. He would do anything for her and hates to see her hurt or not well or in pain. And it's the same way he is with me.
mine treats me the same. he sticks me with all 4 kids plus I am 33 I will be 34 weeks tomorrow. he works from home and he pays all the bills and he thinks that all I am here for is taking care of the kids and him. I don't know what to do about this either. he gets so mad at the kids when they are being kids cause since he is 8 years older then me he thinks he know more about how kids are suppose to be. he keeps talking about how he was raised and what happened if kids acted up back then.
Im sorry ur going thru that..he does need like a wake up call...he needs to see that u do need the help n that its hard...my hubby has two jobs n no days off just on 2 days he works only 5 hours each so its not too bad but he still helps...n i dont ask for it (ThankGod) but he use to say things like that too & one time that i left him with the baby he kinda noticed how hard it is. n now he doesnt say anything. hes very understandable if i cant cook or clean..n i only have one..n on Mondays when he works later he lets me sleep in n says I got him babe.. 💓
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@caseclosed2015, UR lucky UR case got better... I feel like there's no hope. He's seriously so cruel with his words sometimes I feel like just disappearing but we both know I have no where to go. I don't know what to do :( I just wish this nightmare would end im so jealous of actual good relationships... I feel like I live in a fairy tale world were I want us to be good so bad I do whatever it takes and it's just fake :( I can't even be myself CUZ I'm busy worrying about him 😔