@trezelle, my mom put her husband first and still do to this day and none of her kids associate with her really. she put us last all the time so I know what you mean. i do not want my kids to feel left out. ! so yes i understand and do agree.

agree 100%

Exactly my point!! Glad you get what I'm saying. Girl I grew up in a house where the man was put first and since I was the step child he put his kids first so you can only imagine what that was like.. I don't want my kids to feel how I felt.

@trezelle, yessss i understand them , and i have nothing against wih what they are saying cause everyone will have their on opinion.. and thats what im saying. my man will get catered too, everything he need.. but my babies must come first. i think the same way you think on this.

@threekings101415, exactly!! I do understand what all the women are saying though.. To each their own. I'll love my man unconditionally, I'll treat him like the king he is because I dam sure won't settle for anyone less.. But it's a sad day in hell if he thinks his needs come before my kids. There needs to be a balance!

@trezelle, right. far as eating we all eat together. nobody eats first unless my kids are then they will get a snack my husband will not be below my kids but my kids will most def come first. ! 💯💯💯💯💯 agreed. !

@threekings101415, experiencing that allowed me to see life the way I do now. I'd feed my family before me but my kids would def get a different treatment. My man won't be below them but he would need to understand that my kids are my flesh and blood!

@briandavisjr819, yes i mentioned it to my husband and he said the same.. @trezelle exactly. ! I hate you had to experience that. and no you not backwards you are right in my eyes. but i respect everyones opinion.. but i do feel the same way you feel.

@threekings101415, goes to show you how some people think. Smh... I can't ever put a guy above my kid. It's the worst feeling ever and I'm speaking from experience here. I feel like relationships should be balanced. It has to be a decision that you both come to. It's the same way I wouldn't want my man to put me above our kids.. Idk maybe in backwards or something

@threekings101415 yep I showed him this before he went to work and he said that's how all men should be

@trezelle, dammmmm thats messed up. i just dont agree. but I agree with 100% with you on this comment a child get one mother a man can get plenty women.. So my child will alwaye be first. and that wouldnt leave my mind either, i would have looked shit faced if my mom said something like that.

I remember one time we all were playing a game in my house (mom step dad and siblings) and the question came up "if you were on a boat and it was sinking who would you save first husband or kids"... My mom said "husband cause she can have more kids with him later".... That answer has never left my mind! Funny thing is she and her "husband" aren't even together anymore. My child(ren) ALWAYS come first! At the end of the day if I was to die my man can find another chick my kids can't ever have another blood mother..

@karnawest, right. i agree. 😉😊😄

@threekings101415 exactly... I think my husband would actually be upset with me if I said I would pick him over our children...

@karnawest, me and my husband has never thought about it either.. we dont even think like that, cause like you said we are a family we do everything as a family but if was to be my kids over my husband it would be my kids.. and you have all your life to put your husband first. your kids will grow up like you said. but i just dont see my husband coming before my kids. my momma wont even come before my kids. ! my opinion.

@briandavisjr819, exactly. exactly. exactly. same how my parents taught me. ! and yes looking back you are absolutely right. !!! they always say fix the kids plate first.. But everyone will never agree with us. as long as my husband agree then thats all thsf matter. and yes a man gone do what they want regardless.

My husband and I never even thought about " putting" Children before each other.... We raise them together, we play with them together, we do a lot as a family because we enjoy our little family... We definitely make time for just us though. I know when we are having our issues we always remove our children from our situation (fight) and talking through our stuff and fix our problems... Our children will only be children for a short time in our life time so we don't want to miss anything... But, your spouse will be with you (in theory) the rest of your life so that relationship is important as well... I just have a hard time saying one trumps the other....

@threekings101415 exactly my grandmother and mother raised me that kids come first no matter what...when you have family events what do they say "everybody fix your kids plates first than the adults will eat after." like you said you can be doing everything right at home and the man will still step out and chest just bc he wanted too

Trueee

Exactly 💯 😂 @threekings101415

@mrscaldwell6, exactly. i cater to my man, do everything and anything for him but if he wanna be selfish and be first then he either gone have to leave or suck it up. one or the two. but my kids will never be second.. @briandavisjr819 exactly. i love him to death but not even to my momma will come before my kids. thats just how i was raised. kids should always be first regardless. fuck that extra shit. and lol right i be eating as i go, so i don't mind.. @expecting2015 my point. a man gone do what he wanna do regardless. you can suck his d--- 10x a day, have sex with him 30x a day, rub his feet, run his water watever but he gone still do what he wanna do. no if ands or buts about it.. @destin25 exactly. 😄😉 a kid should be first in my eyes.. then your man .. and it havent stopped a man from cheating and it wont stop a man from cheating.. no matter how first he is.

My kids come first point blank. I love my fiancé to death he even puts the kids first. When has putting a man before your kids stopped him from cheating?? Exactly!!

I truly don't believe a man would start cheating because you making the kids (his kids) plates first and I don't believe that's not showing attention either. A man will cheat because a man will cheat if that's what he wants to do .

Point blank kids come first !

@threekings101415 exactly better find a foul who will put you first bc I'm no fool my daughter will eat before anybody and when my son come it will be both of them then him then me. I don't mind eating last bc while I'm cooking I'm eating lol

For real Smh to each their own but in my house my kids are first always no matter what hubby makes sure his kids dinner and stuff is first I'll be damned for a man to tell me my foods first and my necessities first he gets his days that I cater to him first and what not but at the end we know out kids go first @threekings101415

@briandavisjr819, Right. and even if my husband wanted to be first he wouldnt. kick rocks my man. My kids are number 1 😊 i can provide for myself, take care of myself, please myself. so why should your ass be first ? you can be second and i be last but you being first is negative.

Hell yeah

@threekings101415 my husband will be mad ass hell if I put him before our kids

@briandavisjr819, Fucking right lol

@proud_mommyof4, yessssssssss. you can give a man the world and he still will cheat but at the end i know my kids will forever be there. im their mom. my kids are a priority, my husband is too. but my kids must come first. and that's how my daddy taught me. my mom put her men first and all her kids turned against her. ! @mrscaldwell6 same exact thing my husband said. i agree.

Right....my kids comes before anybody but God

I couldn't agree more with you my husband also agrees he said he'd be mad as hell if I was to do something that dumb @threekings101415

I agree 100 a real man put his kids before any women and a real mother puts there kids before any man !

@mrscaldwell6, 😉😊😄

Yess 💯

@leesaja, im trying to tell you.. The women that put they husband/man first. i salute you, but me myself refuse to do it.

✔️💯✔️ no if ands or buts