@momma_beffers i have many disabilities and un able to have a real job but some days i just gotta rant it helps me when i cant go to therapy

ya im sorry I wasn't trying to judge u. just trying to throw out some ideas to get you thinking what may be the problem. and overcoming a "disability" is hard. sorry. I really wasn't trying to attack u

@momma_beffers then you should know how i feel

@sammyjo4life, u don't need to prove anything to anybody. I believe there is a solution to every problem. hard to find. but I don't know the situation . trying to help .. but good luck

I have ptsd and severe depression. we both have to work on overcoming our "disabilities "

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@momma_beffers i have our sheets from the place u dont believe me i can show u and no his laziness isnt his depression he just isnt getting his way he does more for his cuz and mother he will drive to there houses to do 8 or more hours of work . and just bc i dont seem like anything doesnt mean anything. im rewording alot of this bc i dont want to offend you . im worse depressed than him mine and his counselor done agreed

don't seem bipolar to me. seems like he is more than slightly depressed. laziness comes from depression a lot. try to pin point one issue at a time

@momma_beffers i go to therapy twice a week constantly reading my bible and im not perfect . he goes to therapy too but he doesnt take his medication . thats why i let him slide for 6 days and i took the chewing but i can not and will not help someone who will not help themselves. if you knew him and saw the way he treats me etc u would understand sometimes i need to rant . ik him better than anyone yes i get fed up with him right before our son is born or shortly after we will be together 3 years . 3 years i wouldn't throw it away i might get pissed and say it but i would i love him u can ask @emismommy or anyone who talks to me on a daily he gets on my nerves but id be lost without him . im bipolar with psychotic features , major depression. ptsd with serious symptoms and impairment. he has explosive anger issues and slight depression and adhd . ik we aint perfect but sometimes i get frustrated bc he acts totally different when he isnt getting his way . i even when fkared and hurts to walk clean and cook and go to the bathroom i might look like a flamingo doing so but i get it done i want to lay in tje bed i want to get to do what he does but if one of us doesnt do something me him and our unborn child will be homeless . my grandparents dont play they are very strict and mean . im off my meds and im sorry that im in constant pain and at times very moody but along with being bipolar my mood swings are doing cartwheels pregnancy plus bipolar dont mix well .

@emismommy, I am trying to give advice and help. that's what I meant. we are not perfect. we should work on ourselves constantly. if she was offended or not woman find stuff to over react about. but I apologize if that came out wrong sammy

@sammyjo4life, sorry I didn't mean u aren't a hard worker. sounds like u are! better than I am.. I can't cook and I barely clean. I'm working on that. what I meant is work on communication skills and try not to tear him down. but defitinely don't let him lay around. a lot of my laziness is bc I am depressed. . maybe he is too

@emismommy i love u boo 😘

@momma_beffers, u don't have to be rude about this I mean saying for him to be a good man she needs to be a good woman as well first and for most how do you know she's not an amazing woman?? us woman should uplift one another and help and be there for one another not put each other down or say things that sound pretty harsh when we don't know the circumstances for everything nor do we know the full story its just not needed nor is it right! and coming from one prego mama to another you have to remember our hormones are crazy 24\7 right now and we can take things to heart every easily so I just ask that u please think before u speak!

@momma_beffers i am a good woman before we moved in here i was doing everything and i still am i have severe r.a. i am suppose to be on bed rest but i vaccum i cook three meals a day wash dishes clean the bathroom dust and clean our room by myself i would cut the yard but i cant . i say will u and he waits til 6 days later he didnt get up until they told me if it dont get cut soon i would have to go somewhere else. and im so sorry that im so miserable pregnant and constantly in a flare that i dont see how bad of a woman i am since he gets to lay up in the bed 24-7 and when i was haven contraptions the other night and needed to go in he goes just go back to sleep yes some days he does some but damn i rather be single some day i get tired of bullshit and this is not his house . its my grandparents. when we lived with his mom he did a lot more and i did my share i expect no different now .

and also.. to get a good man u need to become a good woman

that is not easy sammy... ask him to do something "WILL you do this?" not "can you" .

when I moved into my bfs house he was really able to get stuff done since I was positive

we live with my grandparents all they ask is the yard gets cut we buy our own food help out when able with the bills and keep the kitchen clean @ak16 no its 80 . it wouldnt be so bad but im getting bitched out bc he is being lazy @momma_beffers i already had a calm talk with him his mother has to and still no change

my ex was lazy too. when he does something well, reward him. message. sex, dinner, ice cream, kiss him and thank him. tell him u appreciate him.

I understand that he may be lazy.. but try not to talk about him like that.. uplift him. don't tear him down. not his strong suit. is it hot outside over there? it was 95 at 10 am in Ohio . he will feel more discourage if u talk bad about him

How will you get kicked out?

@ak16 i cant help his mom was a drug head i can't help he wants to be lazy but i do know and will not allow myself to get kicked out over him being lazy

I've had that exact same argument before and then I learned my husband was never taught to do have the things I was as a kid and it's not his fault but the way his parents raised him