🙏🏼 OPINIONS PLEASE 🙏🏼 So I have to choose between 2 places to live before the babies born. The first…

I would personally go with the aunts house. Mainly because it's smoke free and clean! You can always plug in a fan and being in an environment where you don't fight will be a lot less stressful than one where you do!

id say mainly because of the smoking and arguing you should just pay the $350.

you can buy a high powered fan for the heat they sell them at Costco if you have one near you

Sounds like my situation literally ! I would chose aunts because it's clean you'd have peace . And most of all no smoking invest in about 2 fans or a plug in air conditioner

Oh I should add they smoke as well, and I also have 2 fans plugged in lol they don't stop it from being 100 degrees plus when I redo the room there won't be room for a fan. It's a really small room and there on a desk now but that desk won't be there @sunshine1

@expecting2015, @mahaylasmomma

Ask them politely not to smoke around the baby , that's just like my situation it's crazy

Well if you have a window you could get a window unit? Either way I think I'd choose aunts. Having a baby is stressful enough, being in a small environment with someone you don't get along with will just make things more difficult! But you gotta do what you feel is best for you and your baby!

I'd stay with your mom. Save up the money and hopefully within a few months you have enough to be on your own.

If both places have people that smoke go with the one in which you can go into an area comfortably with you and the baby to be alone. Which I bet would prob be your mom's house.

@alye27, you have to get the good high powered fans they are at least $50 or more

Yeah I think staying at my aunts is the best. I guess what was really holding me back is not having any money to buy anything or not having a job to go back to. @sunshine1 @expecting2015

Oh okay, good to know. I seriously need one its so hot in there. I was going to get an air conditioner, but they don't want me wasting the power @mahaylasmomma

You're going to have to say fuck them and run they power because the heat is no joke lol @alye27 run it when you can

well they need to deal @alye27 because you could get heat stroke if it's too hot.

do you have a Costco near you?

Lol no shit! I'm dying in this LA heat! They live over in Orange County so it doesn't get as bad but my room is like an oven. It's always like 100 degrees @expecting2015

I do! But unfortunately I can afford to buy anything till next month @mahaylasmomma

ohhh ok well now you know where to get them

Thank you @mahaylasmomma

Well looks like living at my aunts isn't really an option anymore lol @expecting2015 @sunshine1 but thanks for the advice

If it was me, I'd do the mom thing. She seems to be willing to change things for the better for the baby and you'll have your long term set up better for you to succeed. :)

that sucks I'm sorry

It really does @mahayaasmomma and it might be my hormones but they were complete dicks about it

@mahaylasmomma,

Oh well, you just have to make the best of your situation! At least you'll still have spending money if you're living at your moms!

I would say your mom's house. because of the simple fact that you need money to survive. and , to save up for the baby until you can start work again. yes , your aunts would be cleaner , but your mother did say she would help clean up the house and you have your own room . and , she's your mom. she's more then likely will help you get what you need and I'm sure she would love that chance to bond with you and the baby. yes you may not get along now . but , I'm sure that will change as soon as the baby comes. or even now. you will be amazed how different the relationship can change once you have children. me and my dad argued all the time when I lived with him and they(him and my stepmother) smoked as well but they tried to keep it confined to only they room and closed their vents so none could seep through . but , other then the arguing which wasn't bad , I was just pregnant and hormonal , they helped me out a lot . i got to save up money and I got to move out here to my own place . I would say since they both smoke anyway , just stay there . and , you will be in your room most of the times anyways . and working. so , you won't really be around your mom as much. trust me , you need the space for the baby.@alye27,

Thank you @monilovesautumn it'll be nice to have my job when she's born too. She said she'd go to therapy to help with the fighting so hopefully she keeps her word and things get better. I just feel bad taking her room from her

Sounds like the moms house would be better.

she's only doing it because she cares and loves you . you need the room . she's thinking about the well being of you and the baby . and , see she's trying to make an effort to bond with you already. give her a chance . it sounds like she wants to help . no offense to your aunt but if she really wanted to help you she wouldn't take all of your money. I mean maybe a lil because she knows you don't have much , but all? that's money hungry. and if I'm paying that much I deserve at least enough space for me AND my baby . then you have to think of how would you survive? how's the baby getting diapers , wipes , formula , shampoo , and what about you? with pads/tampons , body wash , shampoo , conditioner, toothpaste etc . is she going to provide that for you ? I see my cons living with your aunt then your mom. and plus the heat . that's unsafe for the baby . @alye27

That's a really good point. I wouldn't be able to afford any of that. Staying with my mom will definitely be more helpful! And hopefully if she comes through with therapy them shell come through with helping keep the house cleaning or fighting. She only fights because she has multiple personality disorder and is mentally unstable, but hopefully being in therapy will help. @monilovesautumn

see , it's not her fault per se. it's the disorder. and , if she's volunteering herself for therapy for you that means she's really trying. and she really wants you to be there . you can help each other . I would stay with parents before anyone else. they have the best intentions . I think k it would be so much better. stay with your mom hun.

Stay with your mom.