I'm really beginning to feel like pregnancy is only as good as things are with your partner. I mean as far as actually enjoying it. I'm just not enjoying my pregnancy at all and I'm really bothered by my feelings. I love my babygirl but not feeling like I thought I would and hubby seems like he could care less. Every excuse is cuz he has a kid already and he's done it. I really just feel like giving up on trying to get nursery ready or even picking things out he just doesn't seem to care. He sets aside time for his daughter who lives with us and I feel like he's not gonna love our baby the same. He's always making excuses for her and giving into her every whim no matter what it means for anything else. Should I just quit mentioning anything to him about our baby and do things myself? Am I just overreacting? This is the only time I'll ever get to do this since it's gonna be the only one for us and he just ignores or makes fun or gets aggravated with the fact that I wanna enjoy it and try to make the most of it.
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Thank you @katemeier and @uhmandaxconrad92. We were going through a big rough patch before baby and kinda continued. I've mentioned lil things here and there like how he's always saying he gave into having a second kid cuz I wanted it. He always said he only wanted one and his ex got knocked up on purpose. I tell him things like that make me feel like I'm the only one who wants her and all he can say is I don't mean it like that. I never thought I'd have to deal with this from him.
@expecting2015, that's where I'm at. it aggravates me to even talk to certain people about the preg when he doesn't seem like it matters
@cimarie1314, I don't think you're overreacting and your feelings are valid .but guys react differently to pregnancy than women do I'm sure he'll get more excited once the baby actually gets here.my husband had no interest in my baby showers ,setting up the nursery I still made him help me but he did it with a stink face..lol....this time around I've been doing most of it on my own it's been nine years since we had our last one .but it doesn't bother me that much because I know once baby gets here he'll love him the same.and I think by not pushing things on him he actually showing a little bit more of an interest...good luck
Girl it breaks my heart that you feel that way... Have you expressed your feelings to him?
I'm sorry honey....I wish me and PJ could hug you
@uhmandaxconrad92, that's what I was thinking just cut him out of it. just sucks because it's really making my view on him and my stepdaughter change. I'm trying so hard to just be happy and enjoy this but I just feel more alone than anything
I haven't enjoyed my pregnancy at all , I love my baby girl but it's been rough. I've excluded people and started doing things myself like doctor appointments , shopping
I say exclude him and do it yourself...the if he cares he should realize and bring it up to you. It will be his loss. Don't let him and his actions drag down your happiness. Enjoy your pregnancy and find a bestie to share the moments and ideas with instead....it might even make him jealous 😘
@missvargas, that's what a friend of mine suggested about it affecting him diff. It just frustrates me to hear he did certain things with his ex and their preg and he doesn't seem to care about ours.