How many mommy's were involved in your baby shower planning? I seem to have difficulty with being a part of the planning process with my fiancés mom. We talk all the time but once the word "baby shower" comes up, she changes the subject. This will be the only baby shower we will be having and since this is my first girl and most likely my last pregnancy, I wanted to at least help. I've told her I wanted to help but she just brushed it off. Any advice? Do I just let her plan it?