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sazockaz14
Sarah Jane ockerby
I really don't want to get stressed, I just need to vent. regarding previous posts about hubby going out on all day benders every week spending money like it's going outta fashion and coming home in such a state he's nearly unconscious choking on his vomit....
We had a huge falling out where I left him for 3 days so I didn't stress. I thought it was sorted etc. He had learned from his mistakes and won't be as bad etc etc. He even said he wasn't going out at all this month as he has a night out planned with work next month. funny thing is I had my doubts and sure enough after asking if he has plans this week (being on holiday) he said no just catch up with family and friends during day etc. I'm at work and I get a text saying he's going out this evening. I get home at half five and he's already out. last time he went out this time he ventured in at half two in the morning. I'm so annoyed as we have the health visitor coming tomorrow and after we were having a day out as it's my day off. He may not need to be present for health visitor but I don't think it's a great first impression-an extremely stinky and hungover hubby. His response is she'll just have to except I'm effing human!!! my word what an arse. He always does this and spoils any real time we have together. it's happened a few times and I've lost respect for him. He clearly thinks ah she's never gonna leave, we will fight and then we're ok...... I'll soon show him. need advise on how though 😢
15.07.2015
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sazockaz14
Thanks ladies. I've gave him an ultimatum. It's more to do with the company he insists on keeping. His so called friend groped and sexually touched me up on a night out with the hubby who was mortal around years ago. I told hubby next day and he basically shrugged it off and went out with that mate that night. His mate has destroyed relationships and he has and knows what he's like. I compromised with hubby but his mate thought every time x we went out he could grope my be as to and tell me how attractive I am etc. I told him to eff off etc or ill be contacting police. I cried to hubby but he's still best mates with him. Then this guy thinks it's acceptable to try criticise my pregnancy illness om fb and offended my parents directly and om purpose on fb. I got upset but I'm the one I'm wrong.... He idolises this Dick head and he can't do anything wrong. I feel lost and lonely. It's come between us for 6 years. going round in circles. We've split up several times over it. All seems ok then few weeks later he is out with him drinking all day, gambling etc etc. He has seen how it hurts me put will always back his mate. health visitor has been and said we need to talk about impact of baby on relationships. we're going out for lunch so I'm gonna give him the ultimatum again. It's ne his baby and marriage or his friend. I already know his decision. I just need him to actually say it. xxx
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aftermathofmoo
sarah·Мама подростка
I can only give advice from a previous situation. My DS is now 7 but when I was pregnant with him I was in a similar situation. I felt stressed, unhappy and unwanted, not the feelings you want when your pregnant. Anyway, it took me a long time to get out of the relationship, my DS was 15 months when I eventually left and do you know what, my biggest regret is not doing it sooner. I won't lie, its hard on your own but the way I looked at it, it was harder with him messing us around. I am now 24 weeks with my 2nd and I am with a wonderful guy, if it taught me anything, its too not settle for anything less than you want and deserve xxx
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sarah29493
Sarah azzopardi·Мама дочки (9 лет)
@sazockaz14, my fellas mum is always worrying about me asking am I ok all the time. The baby is due in 13 an a half weeks an he has never bought a thing for her. I always tell him I hope he is disgusted an ashamed of himself an all he says is am sorry. I love him so much but all he does is cause me heartache an misery so I had no option but to tell him he needs to make the choice me an the baby or his lifestyle. I have told him I can no longer cry over him hurting so I decided that my baby is first an now I can see him starting to feel guilty cause he is alway messaging but it's not enough to come home. why are they such pigs. I can understand being scared but that's natural I have times when I am scared but this is part of making a life. I just hope he sees sense before its to late. I don't no how much fight I have left I say just plod on for u an the baby xxxx
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sazockaz14
That's how I feel @sarah29493
His mam found an argument between me and his friend so asked him to meet her alone. since then she's had nowt to do with me and only see a Michael on his own. so he's told her his side and cried to mum. not what I've gotta put up with but she woukdnt give example chance to tell mine as we don't exactly get on amazingly. I'm really unhappy and Sick of going around in circles. He easily spends money just to puke it up but has to be forced to buy anything for our baby. even practical things that we Def need!! I've gotta fight for everything. I'm fed up. xxx
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sarah29493
Sarah azzopardi·Мама дочки (9 лет)
I hope ur ok but I am in the same sort of situation. They just think of nothing but there belly an ale. my fella has taken the absolute piss over the past few weeks an now he has cried depression an go to stay at a mates for a few days cause he doesn't like that I told his family how he really acts an the fact he hasn't yet given any money for his baby. my family don't have a clue any of this is going on I keep telling him to grow up but it last four days while at work the bang weekend hits an I don't see him till Sunday. when he can't do any house work cause he is hungover an Sunday is a day of rest. The past few weeks I have felt so along an down. The only thing I get up for in the morning Is to go an earn the pennies so I can give my baby girl everything I never. An she is my motivation ever single day. I hope it helps to see ur not alone an also anytime you like to chat I am free us mummies got to stick together xxxxx @sazockaz14
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jodipatton
Jodi Patton·Мама дочки (9 лет)
What a nightmare chick @sazockaz14 erm is say leave it till yah have the baby and maybe your hormones are playing up a bit but it's still quite a time potentially before your little one comes so it's not right for you to be so unhappy it's such a tricky situation xxx
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sazockaz14
We keep going round in circles and basically I'm not happy. I think I do want to leave him but scared it's hormones influencing my mood and decision. I don't trust what he says and my gut instinct is always right. I've never and will never tell him what to do but he tells me stuff to just to aphese me. keep me happy for a few weeks then does it again. It's him talking bollocks that's grates on me. I'm ok just had a little cry lol xxx
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jodipatton
Jodi Patton·Мама дочки (9 лет)
Hope your okay chick xxx what are you saying that you want to leave him or you don't? Xxx
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