I nag about this enough well I should write about this my BF has been in jail for 4 months on July 26 he will be out I have gone to visit him every Sunday at 730 I'm in line waiting the drive is 1 hour 30 min I see him for 30 min then drive back home I'm due August 26 so far I've done everything on my own I had gestational diabetes delt with it in my own now I have sciatica the back problem I massage my own back and cry to my self thinking soon it will be us 3 soon he will help out last week he told me he was thinking about staying with his mom (45 min away!! ) and just go see me and the baby on the weekends!!!! Wth I started crying am I over reacting I already did so much on my own I though we would have his support not just financially ughhhh well Ima let him just see the baby in the weekend but as a single father. Am I going to far? Should I think about it first? Ugh what if I'm over reacting?
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@yolisblossom, that's what I would do. You're either in it or you're not. You're either here with us and helping with baby every day and we're together or you're at your moms and single and only get weekend privileges AND on child support with the court. You're
honestly he.doesnt deserve to see the baby unless you need the break... of he is going to move home instead of.with you and baby then.he really doesnt.need to be in.your picture anyway...
I don't really think so. I would feel the same way.
yup you tell him that.. it's gonna hurt like a bitch but that's what he chose.
We have a house where we only pay 300 for a room and it's with my sisters so it should be good idk I think they are excuses so I won't be over reacting if I tell him either here with us or your moms place alone? @mama2planning1 @arielle
Plus if you think about it, its not really parenting. If he's gonna see your baby twice a week who's gonna bathe baby, take baby to doctor, feed baby? Two days a week is just trying to get out of it and live without worrying about another little person. I'd day he can see baby as a single guy then if he doesn't want to be there for you or baby but two days out of a week.
no be like you're all in or not.. a baby isn't a side job! he can get a job easily. my boyfriend who is illegal has a job and not in the fields. but even if he had to he will go. but I don't believe that bs because if he can get a job there he should've said baby let's go with my mom got a bit until I can get a job and we get our own place or something.
@yolisblossom, idk, it's not my relationship but that sounds like excuses to me. You can't be a part time dad and act like a single father when we're still together. How does he think that makes you feel! Alone and abandoned of it were me. Only on the weekends...I just can't believe that. Being a ftm to a newborn is NO joke and really trying on you emotionally and mentally. He needs to be there for both of you. I had my daughter alone 12-14 hours a day for the first two weeks of her life and that was hard enough! I couldn't imagine being alone 5 days a week. He needs a reality check 👊🏽
Thanks he wants to be there but just the weekends and he says he wants to be at his moms house just to get a job faster and easier but I think he can get a job anywhere 😒 we are still together @arielle
If you two are still together and he said that, then yes I would go ahead and break it off and let him see the baby on the weekends as a *single* father since he wants to act like one. Don't let him diminish your worth momma, you don't deserve that bs when he's the one who got himself locked up and now doesn't want to step up when he gets out. You don't need irresponsibility and instability as a new mom! Good luck momma.
@arielle, that's exactly what I was thinking thank you girls you guys make me feel good about my choice and not evil lol @madibrice @mama2planning1 @jessicagarmal