need to vent ladies! ..... it really errkks my nerves when my fiances ex wife always wants to plan…
need to vent ladies! ..... it really errkks my nerves when my fiances ex wife always wants to plan things with their son and his friends and wants to play super mom but cant even take the time to come pick them up from our house i always have to take him or them to her cause she refuses to come in our drive way unless its convenient for her...and when she plans things we gotta pay for it...if u wanna plan a fun day with your son and his friends make sure u can afford it!!!! she does it cause she knows we have the money to do it but thats not the point!!! point is u wanna play super duper cool happy mom then do the role dont just pretend, BE just that! but on ur own time and on your own dime!!!! i dont like being ran by another womens schedule, i shouldnt have to stop what im doing to take ur son to u cause ur still upset with how ur life turned out that u cant drive ur happy ass up my hill in my yard and pick ur son up!!! uugghhh didnt wanna start my day off like this...sorry for the long rant!!
Kirsten Paravalos·
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i would tell her exactly that.. you're not the childs real mother, and if his mother wants to be a mother she needs to step up and do her job which includes picking her son up and dropping him off. i would just tell her sorry im busy today but youre more than welcome to come and vet him
Kirsten Paravalos·
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don't get me wrong.. you probably love him as your own, as you should.... but if his momma wants to be a momma tell her to do her job!
levismama1988·
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@kparavalos, oh how i wish i could but then it upsets my fiance cause he's always like i do these things for my son he sees what i do for him and thats all that matters...uuggh i get that but damn she takes a avantage of that and always gets her way...it really is annoying...but bet ur ass when i have my baby here im not fixn to drop what im doing load him up just to take him to her when clearly it would be easier for her to just stop by...and i promise u i aint doing that...she better be prepared to come by here more often cause i aint gonna make my baby ride everwhere cause of her!
Kirsten Paravalos·
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i completely get where he is coming from... but as a man he has to realize that he can't put his whole life on pause with his FAMILY to take care of her needs... thats just flat out disrespectful if you ask me... shes impeding on someone elses life and thats wrong... she wouldnt like it if the roles were reversed @levismama1988,
levismama1988·
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@kparavalos, oh iv told him that...shes the type that most definetly would not put up with the shit i do...im pretty passive so i let things go but shes really testing my patients...more and more everyday i loose respect for her cause ur right she shouldnt put that kinda strain on our realtionship just cause she aint happy and i know thats why she does it...
Kirsten Paravalos·
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exactly why shes doing it because shes not happy and she knows the only way she can make anyone miserable is by using her son against people... i hate baby mommas like that!
levismama1988·
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@kparavalos, and yes i do think of him as my own i mean he live with us 50% of the time too...week on week off...and i do for him as i would my own son...but she gives me absolutly no credit for that and still has no respect for me...u would think she would asleast me happy that her son has a step mother that treats him how i do but she doesnt...shes so bitter and unhappy it realy is sad!
levismama1988·
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@kparavalos, yep she does that too...she really has no worries cause her ex husband really is a good man and she uses their son to get his attention and help and it makes me wanna pull her hair out!
levismama1988·
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@kparavalos, but after my son is here he is gonna be my main priority not her needs and wants and concerns...and ima make sure of that...she better get ready!
Kirsten Paravalos·
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thats a sad women... a very sad women. just keep being the good woman that you are, her son will see and notice as he gets older the difference between a good man and a bitter women. hell also be able to know what a good relationship is from the examples that your husband and you set for him! don't be afraid to det boundaries either, you gotta also be strong for your baby as well! Props to you for being so kind and good... I wish I was capable of being more passive sometimes!
Arielle Warner·
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People treat you how you let them. I know it's her son but if she's acting that way I would stay my butt at home and be like I have things to do so you can come get him or just not see him, choice is yours. And no you can't have any money, bye.
levismama1988·
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@kparavalos, your right we do set a good example for him at our house hold and i know thats more important..plus im not childish so i wont stoop to her level but yea i do gotta set some boundries..me and my fiance have a good thing going and i aint gonna let her mess that up cause she cant get her shit together 😊
levismama1988·
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@arielle, i tried this morning i didnt get dressed or anything thinking my fiance would just take them but he had to go with our worker to measure for windows and all the boys were in the living room so i just got my ass up and got dressed and took them...and i know i gotta set boundries cause if it were her in my shoes she woulda told my fiance to kiss her ass but then again thats why they aint together! 😃
Arielle Warner·
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@levismama1988, smh i wouldn't have left the house lol. But I'm stubborn