My doctor refused to check also. "There's really no point. You can be 100% effaced for days, weeks even, and we don't want to cause infection. If you're feeling goods, then I really don't want to give you false hope thinking she may come early.". The thing is, I WANT her to come on her due date - not early. But, I guess I understand where he's coming from.

@mssjudyk, really?? Nice to know thanks! :) @sgtpeppertheory yes that's true and I agree with you @ce5ce I just don't like that she wouldn't do it, she could have someone else do it. @emc229 exactly I was told that I can ask to be checked anytime

well that's different. I've heard of patients refusing to do it but not the doctor😟😟 makes me think she just wanted to be difficult. I would've said send me in a nurse that will then and not leave until I got what i wanted. I understand it's to prevent infection but geesh, there are ways to compromise😒😒

My midwife said they don't check unless I'm having contractions regularly, because some people can be at a certain dilation for weeks, and some dilate all in one day and have their baby that night. Doesn't really tell you much.

she refused ?? wdh. i didn't know they could refuse to do something like that. that's bs. you 37weeks you should be getting checked anyways.

my midwife refused to do it unless I was in labor also. it prevents infection.

Geez I asked my doc and she did it in my last appt. I was just having a ton of contractions so I wanted to make sure I wasn't dilated or anything. Gave me piece of mind. She should serve to your needs!

u can self check don't stress. You have to wash your hands very super well, and use some lube, maybe olive or coconut oil. I used lube, u can Google How.to do it: ) u can also YouTube it