I used to fight with my SO for weeks until I now only see him 4 hours during the day because of work. I've made it a habit to write a letter to him on the days he works nights so when he gets home he has something good to look forward too. Most of the time I'm the one getting mad. We made it to where we both aren't on our phones all the time and spend as much time together away from social media, that's helped a ton. We've argued about the phone thing one too many times. We also make time to have a date either us two or with our daughter (you have to have a mindset that a date doesn't just mean going out to dinner or a movie.) Overall we've been a lot better and I remind him of his hard work.