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sarah_marie

So I am a ftm, I am pregnant by my ex boyfriend who was apparently cheating on me at the time. His now current…

So I am a ftm, I am pregnant by my ex boyfriend who was apparently cheating on me at the time. His now current girlfriend is pregnant and due about a month after me. He says that he wants to be a daddy to my baby but hasn't proven it. And now I am in the hospital due to severe dehydration and a possible kidney infection and he hasn't even come up to check on the baby or me. idk what to do. I don't want to be cold and say he can't be a part of the babies life, but if he doesn't even feel he should check on the baby or come to appointments then what choice do I have?! no bashing please. Just stressed and kinda needed to rant. Thanks guys

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kristen_91

kristen_91Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего

personally, I'd wait til the baby is born. if he don't show up.... I'd be done caring about his feelings. But until then, guys don't have the attachment as early as women and if he can't come around for his baby then I'd be worried. And try to express your worries to him also. Like I said he more than likely doesn't think about this like we do. Hope he does come around for your baby. But I definitely get the fear of him hurting your child emotionally.

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asunaking15

VirginiaМама четверых детей

your welcome and hope all goes well for you and little bundle of joy

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wyatts_mommy_0106

KrystinМама двоих (младенец)

your welcome I hope everything is okay with u and baby and keep ur head up mama

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missing9user

missing9userМама троих детей

I would move on . The fact that he was barebacking both of you is enough . Yall both could have had stds . Just move on . You can do bad by yourself .

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sarah_marie

sarah_marie

Thanks @wyattsmommy91 and @poodie87 for yalls thoughts and opinions!! Every little thing helps lol

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wyatts_mommy_0106

KrystinМама двоих (младенец)

it hurts now but in the long run its probably best for both u and baby u don't need someone hurting u or your baby everything happens for a reason and its hard to see right now but he is doing y'all a favor

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wyatts_mommy_0106

KrystinМама двоих (младенец)

I wouldnt listen u know this man better than anyone ppl.put on facades for family friends and everyone u know his true colors if u believe he won't be there for the baby don't let him in the baby's life cause its hard to explain to a kid why their parent don't wanna be apart of their lives if u feel like the best thing for baby is collecting child support and raising the baby on ur own then it is ultimately your decision as the mother no one else can decide for u

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sarah_marie

sarah_marie

Thanks y'all it just hurts my heart that he doesn't seem to care about the little unplanned blessing he helped make!

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asunaking15

VirginiaМама четверых детей

I agree with @wyattsmommy91 and right now you need to just focus on you and the baby well being try not to stress on him or other things

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sarah_marie

sarah_marie

That's how I feel, but any time I voice this almost everyone gives me crap about it and says that he will eventually step up.

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wyatts_mommy_0106

KrystinМама двоих (младенец)

Me personally if he cheated on u and got that girl knocked up and u r in the hospital and he hasn't bothered asking about his unborn kid I wouldn't allow him to be apart of my kids life I'd make him pay for the kid hr helped make but that's it cause the last thing u want is him to be there and then later in life disappoint the kid by choosing to not be

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