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nikaela

Soooo I really need some advice ... I'm 22 weeks pregnant and this is my first child as well as my boyfriends first…

Soooo I really need some advice ... I'm 22 weeks pregnant and this is my first child as well as my boyfriends first child . We've been together for almost a year . I recently found out he cheated on me with his ex this is not the worse part he told he's ex and her entire family and friends that being with me is the biggest mistake he's ever made in his life and that he does not want my baby he said I trapped him with the baby and he told her that he will continue to be with me while I'm pregnant but as soon as our daughter is here he will leave me of course now that he's been caught he admits to saying this but says it was all a lie I've cried everyday for the past week idk what to do he says he loves me and his daughter and that he won't leave us but I feel like he meant every word & I've ruined his life and don't know what to do . Advice anyone ?

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anelalii

NatanyaВ ожидании первенца

I don't want this to sound rude or anything, but a baby won't save your relationship or make it better. even if he didn't mean it, he said it for others to hear and I'm sure the ex believes it. if he truly loved you, he would have never cheated or said those horrible things. leave now before you get even more invested.

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thencomesbabyj

thencomesbabyjМама дочки (5 лет)

I went through the same thing. Leave it's not healthy for u. It's not worth the stress. U will never trust him. I'm sorry

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caracross1

caracross1В ожидании первенца

My ex used to say that he never had to hit me because words hurt worse than fists. And he was right. Words stick with you longer than a bruise. Words can truly break your heart. I know it's hard but it sounds like you'd be better off without him.

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ngujen

Jennifer NguyenВ ожидании первенца

and you shouldn't be okay with getting cheated on, you're worth more than that.

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ngujen

Jennifer NguyenВ ожидании первенца

@nikaela, I had an ex that cheated on me the whole time I was with him, 2 years. They say they will change but never do. If its the idea of being alone, don't worry about that. you'll have a baby that will love you unconditionally until the right person comes along! which for me, happens to be my current boyfriend and father of my unborn blessing. Be strong. do what's right even if it hurts!

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nikaela

nikaela

@caracross1, I know ! That's what hurt me the most ! I've always been cheated on so it wasnt necessarily the cheating it was more the things he said that broke my heart never in a million years did I think he'd say that about me and my daughter

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caracross1

caracross1В ожидании первенца

I have to agree with @uhmandaxconrad92. One thing I've learned is cheaters cheat again. And just the fact that he said that stuff would be reason enough to leave him. If he truly cared about you and your child he wouldn't have said what he said.

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nikaela

nikaela

@firsttimemommy89, @whitbun @uhmandaxconrad92 @ngujen thanks a lot ladies . I think I just have plenty of thinking to do .

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ngujen

Jennifer NguyenВ ожидании первенца

Just because you love him, doesn't mean that's a good enough reason to stay. if you actually believe he's going to change, then stay. Worry about YOUR happiness and your babies. Cheating is not a phase and just because he was scared, doesn't make it right. I hope you feel better and figure things out. best of wishes 💜

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mother.of.angels

AmandaМама двоих (младенец)

Better to leave now!!!! You can do itt !!!! 👏🙏

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maliksmommie

SamanthaВ ожидании первенца

honey I'm so sorry you are going through this I wish I could be more help, my best thing would be see if he changes by his actions not by the things he says his going to do. and if he doesn't change for you and your baby you may just have to bite the bullet and leave. I hope things get better for you sweetie.

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del_1513181587_whitneys

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I'm sorry you have to go through this. You do not deserve this. Honestly I know it will be extremely hard to leave him and it will be hard to stay. You have to do what's best for you and your baby. Maybe a little break will help you understand where you both stand.

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nikaela

nikaela

@firsttimemommy89, I know I should it's just I love him so much . I've given soo much of myself to him . & he wasn't like this at the beginning of the pregnancy so I'm kinda hoping it's just a phase I understand he's probably really scared . So maybe when she's here he'll fall in love with her like I have idk tho . Thanks for your advice tho

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maliksmommie

SamanthaВ ожидании первенца

I say leave him. your bf sounds like a real dick, get out of that relationship and make sure you and the baby are all taken care of. sorry you're going through that momma.

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